I think dwelling on a bad experience strengthens the memory in your head. So once you've learned what you can from it, make a conscious effort not to think abo

I think dwelling on a bad experience strengthens the memory in your head. So once you've learned what you can from it, make a conscious effort not to think about events that make you suffer. Doing something physical can help take you out of your head. Things like Qi Gong or Tai Chi. Meditation also can help calm that part of your brain that tends to dwell on things. But these are approaches that a person can take if they are interested in addressing the problem. In other words, if your girlfriend is asking you what she can do, make suggestions. It may be that she just wants you to listen.