On the other hand, if your kids go into fields where the pay is unequal across the country, they are less likely to stay in your small town of 100k and move to

On the other hand, if your kids go into fields where the pay is unequal across the country, they are less likely to stay in your small town of 100k and move to somewhere else with more economic or artistic opportunity. And by being in small town, it's a lot more time and money for them to fly to see you, so they will see you less. Ex: I can fly across the ocean for the same price it is to fly 2 hours direct equivalent / 4 hours connecting to see my family in their relatively small town.