I feel everything you're saying. When people call it a crutch, it's so disparaging and judgmental. I think if it makes your life better (like it clearly makes

I feel everything you're saying. When people call it a crutch, it's so disparaging and judgmental. I think if it makes your life better (like it clearly makes yours!), why associate guilt with the benefit? Maybe in a vacuum, "crutch" _is_ a good term. Literal crutches help people after all! But there is definite stigma attached with the mindset.