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What is the point of having a kid if you still want to start a successful business, become a rockstar, climb mt. Everest etc...? A lot of people already have k

What is the point of having a kid if you still want to start a successful business, become a rockstar, climb mt. Everest etc...? A lot of people already have kids and do a very poor job at it -- giving them little time. Having a kid nowadays it's mostly a decision you can make. It isn't worth to bring to the world yet another kid that will by age 12 hate their parents and have huge emotional issues as they grow, because papa and mama were busy with their careers. So, I'd say, only do properly one thing. Other people will say that they get better at this or that, or that it is reasonable. I don't find that possible at all. I have a dog and my duties(cleaning, cooking, exercising, full-time job etc) and my wife already takes up all my time and makes me wish I had more time to spend with them. I also want to have a kid, but after weighting down those things, I think it is unfair: there is no way me + wife can give the same amount of time my parents(mainly mother) gave me. The current way society works kind of sucks in that regard. We can barely afford rent and basic expenses even though we both went to college and got better jobs than our parents.

deepaksurti 7y ago
>> A lot of people already have kids and do a very poor job at it -- giving them little time. Exactly the reason why we haven't yet decided to have a kid. All my past few software jobs have been multi geo and that really kills any sort of me time that you can devote to yourself and family. After reaching home, again there are calls in the evenings. I have given up any hope of finding a software job that lets me work in one geo in one timezone. If I don't like my evenings, I am not so sure the kid is going to like it with me either! I still have fun memories of spending great time with my parents after they were both home in the evening, I just can't see that happening. I also know how much important a part that time sharing played in my growing years. I think if I can't devote that kind of time to the child, it is better not to have one. Raising a kid is a serious responsibility, just like anything else one deeply cares about.

deepaksurti 7y ago

>> A lot of people already have kids and do a very poor job at it -- giving them little time. Exactly the reason why we haven't yet decided to have a kid. All my past few software jobs have been multi geo and that really kills any sort of me time that you can devote to yourself and family. After reaching home, again there are calls in the evenings. I have given up any hope of finding a software job that lets me work in one geo in one timezone. If I don't like my evenings, I am not so sure the kid is going to like it with me either! I still have fun memories of spending great time with my parents after they were both home in the evening, I just can't see that happening. I also know how much important a part that time sharing played in my growing years. I think if I can't devote that kind of time to the child, it is better not to have one. Raising a kid is a serious responsibility, just like anything else one deeply cares about.