Yes - I missed a lot of context with my wife's comment. Usually, in any heated situation, I would get tense and cause the situation to escalate out of control.

Yes - I missed a lot of context with my wife's comment. Usually, in any heated situation, I would get tense and cause the situation to escalate out of control. After cooling off, I would be apologizing to her for my behavior in the situation. In our time together (over a decade now) - she never apologized to me for her behavior. The fact she did twice recently feels like a shock to me because it's so unusual for me. It's an EQ win in the sense that I didn't lose my cool as usual. Hope that adds context.