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Why anyone sane would marry such people is beyond me.
by new2628 7y ago
Why anyone sane would marry such people is beyond me.
- colechristensen 7y agoWhat about people showing off their car, perfect pictures of their vacations on social media, some set of achievements or trophies, their perfect "battlestation" computer setup, etc. etc. etc. People are generally obsessed with status symbols, jewelry isn't really any worse than anything else.
- liability 7y ago> "What about people showing off their car, perfect pictures of their vacations on social media, some set of achievements or trophies, their perfect "battlestation" computer setup, etc. etc. etc." You know plenty of people don't do any of this stuff, right? I get the feeling you meant that to be a broad list that would have virtually everybody covered in one respect or another, but if that was your intention you failed.
- colechristensen 7y agoI did say and mean generally, not virtually everyone. I do think people who are not particularly interested in status signaling are somewhat rare.
- liability 7y agoI think that opinion probably reflects your immediate environment more than anything else.
- Consultant32452 7y agoNoticeable economic status differences (read: status symbols) are one of the most motivating forces in social behavior. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-psychology-of-social/ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-psychology-of... >...apart from economic payoffs, social status seems to be the most important incentive and motivating force of social behavior.” The more noticeable status disparities are, the more concerned with status people become, and the differences between the haves and have-nots have been extremely pronounced during the economic recession of recent years.
- refurb 7y agoYou’re not looking close enough. Most people signal status, even if subtle. Talk about a book you read? Talk about how a certain restaurant is terrible? Talk about where you went on vacation? Talk about your job? Talk about music you like? All those things signal status.
- liability 7y agoYes, but this discussion is specifically about materialist signaling.
- jeremyjh 7y agoEveryone demonstrates their status-seeking in different ways. A really common one is to emphatically state how little such things that commonly motivate others also interest you. I guess its ok if that is your thing.
- liability 7y agoStatus seeking, sure. Materialistic approaches to that? No, that is far from universal. Me snearing down my nose at people with materialist obsessions is certainly a form of status seeking, but not of the materialist variety.
- flukus 7y agoThese aren't always equal, someone showing off their car because it's their hobby and they've spent months on it or someone spending a heap of time building and customizing their perfect battle station is very different to buying a rock. Within those communities someone buying their way in is often a negative signal.
- munchbunny 7y agoSometimes it's not a rational belief, but rather an insecurity brought about by a culture that always took this belief for granted. It's complicated precisely because it's signalling, so in context insecurity over the size of the diamond might not be an actual red flag. You might decide to take a principled stand on the matter, and I agree that insistence on a large diamond is a deal breaker, but not everyone has the same upbringing, cultural belief system, or social environment.
- toomanybeersies 7y agoI've met plenty of people who've married a woman (or man) that they don't truely love. It's a lot more common than you might think. There's a whole variety of reasons why that might happen. Societal expectations, economic reasons, insecurity, etc.