I imagine that being conditioned from young to solely work hard and do what you're told will on average not produce independent, creative, and self-motivating p

I imagine that being conditioned from young to solely work hard and do what you're told will on average not produce independent, creative, and self-motivating people who are strong decision makers (i.e. leaders). While I'm sure the parents have good intentions, extreme parenting is in most cases probably not healthy or optimal, including the opposite extreme where kids are given no structure or rules of any kind. Rules and expectations should be established, but give some degree of freedom so that they can discover things on their own, and yes, even make mistakes. How are they supposed to grow if they aren't ever allowed to make their own choices and are terrified of failure?