Can you really blame her when the result of the system is being given these choices: 1) Don't take the pay rise (career stagnation) 2) Keep health care and ad

Can you really blame her when the result of the system is being given these choices: 1) Don't take the pay rise (career stagnation) 2) Keep health care and advance her career (abusing the system, technically, yes) 3) Keep both jobs and advance her career (lose health care) You don't need to be an expert on game theory to realise what the best decision to make in this situation is. I agree with you in principle that it shouldn't be right to do this, but the system is, well.. shit. What else could she have done?