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> he says he decided to leave because Cooper bullied him, included yelling, swearing and intimidation. One person's dismissive and rude might be another person
by cbanek 7y ago
> he says he decided to leave because Cooper bullied him, included yelling, swearing and intimidation.
One person's dismissive and rude might be another person's intimidation.
I think this is the tricky part. I think almost everyone has been bullied at some point in their life, but that doesn't mean all bullying is equal.
Of course Cooper was smart enough to not physically strike someone, or physically threaten them, so it's just words.
But I feel like it is easy to normalize bad behavior just because the rest of industry thinks we should put up with brilliant jerks, and it can be hard to figure out where on the spectrum we are with the generic evidence talked about. I'm not sure if that's because legal cases are still pending, or that it wasn't interesting enough to make the article.
Many times, I think this kind of behavior has to be looked at on a case by case basis, with words actually said. Sometimes seeing bullying on video, for example, makes it obvious that someone is being overly aggressive and hostile by showing body language, and having tone of voice, etc.
I think talking about bullying in articles like this without specific quotes always makes it feel rather vague, distant, and hard to put into context.
All that being said, I'm not sure if I believe that any amount of trainings or discussions really change that behavior. I think most people are the way they are. They may learn to hide it better though end up accomplishing the same thing. Which is how we end up in the pernicious cycle we are, where people are following the letter of the law, but not the spirit of the law.