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Exactly. Another example of the same thing: how quickly did your parents go bonkers after the last of your siblings moved out? Now make this happen like 30 yea
by s_Hogg 7y ago
Exactly. Another example of the same thing: how quickly did your parents go bonkers after the last of your siblings moved out?
Now make this happen like 30 years early. There's a lot to be said for having a job but not needing it. It gives you the chance to look up from just waiting for payday and view your position in your org in much greater detail, because you can afford to take a few chances.
- cmrdporcupine 7y agoI dunno, my parents did not go bonkers after we all moved out. They turned into much nicer people. Adults I could actually talk to 1:1
- gilbetron 7y agoWhile I agree with the point that parents can absolutely be happy/happier when their kids move out, them being adults you could talk to after you moved out probably has more to do with you maturing rather than them ;) Or, more nuanced, everyone involved was able to develop and chill out!
- cmrdporcupine 7y agoAs a parent I can see that a lot of conflict with children has to do with them being (or us seeing them as) something we have to steer and prod in the right direction. And a lot of resent (also reward) is created by having them in your space constantly messing things up or putting demands on your life. When your kids are taking care of themselves, and living as autonomous adults... the relationship changes. As an adult, I moved back in with my parents for a few months in university, prior to moving out to Toronto. At first it was fine but within a few months the same old conflict with my father came back. Being in 'his' space made it hard to be friends.