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Many of us have no interest whatsoever in raising other people’s children. Infidelity is a separate, though sometimes related, issue.
by toasterlovin 7y ago
Many of us have no interest whatsoever in raising other people’s children. Infidelity is a separate, though sometimes related, issue.
- bscphil 7y agoA child that you know doesn't possess your genes but you still accept, is your child. Adoption doesn't count less. If you knew the child wasn't "yours" before the test, why would the test make a difference? If you didn't know the child wasn't yours before the test, surely the most significant part of the result for you is that there is some reason that you didn't know before. That is, that you had been lied to, and were in the relationship and parenting the child under false pretenses. I don't think that most people distinguish between a child from their own genes with an adopted child, unless there's some falsehood in play. At least I hope not.
- toasterlovin 7y agoYou’re putting the cart before the horse. The reason people care about the falsehood is because it results in a child which isn’t the father’s. The reason I decided to settle down with my wife was to have children. My children. I didn’t get married to her so I could raise someone else’s children. I am a biological being, whose existence is the result of 3 billion years of reproduction. I exist to perpetuate the genes which built me.