Work on phrasing in a non-combative way, ask questions, and define terms. Communication is a combination of content and delivery. You can have great content bu

Work on phrasing in a non-combative way, ask questions, and define terms. Communication is a combination of content and delivery. You can have great content but if it is delivered poorly then it is much less likely others will appreciate it. And if you deliver a message with poor content then people might be dazzled by your bullshit but in the long run they will see through it. So work on how you deliver your content. Being someone who likes to argue is fine if you actually mean argue and not insult. If you truly want to learn, ask questions. I have found that is a great way to get good answers online. Say someone writes, "Politician X is horrible." but I think politician x is great. I will resist my urge to insult or just say "No, you are wrong!" or even "What does that mean?" which can be read as having a nasty tone and instead write, "What are some examples of things you think politican x has done that is horrible?" Then I can decide if this person is worth engaging with. If they give an answer that I think indicates that we are entirely too far apart then I stop engaging and move on. This is also part of what my dissertation advisor beat into my head: define your terms. For example, if someone writes, "Most people believe X" well what does "most" mean? 50.1% is a lot different from 99.9%. If they mean 50.1% then maybe we aren't that for apart and we are only disagreeing over whether it is 49.9% or 50.1%.