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Agreed. I am transgender, lesbian, asexual and polyromantic, and none of these things have I ever had so much as a discussion about at my office, nor have they
by lostgame 7y ago
Agreed. I am transgender, lesbian, asexual and polyromantic, and none of these things have I ever had so much as a discussion about at my office, nor have they sparked any 'political' discussion. (I work at one of the major 5 banks in Canada).
- sergiotapia 7y ago"transgender, lesbian" Wait what
- vore 7y agoYour gender is not related to your sexual orientation.
- leetcrew 7y agono but the way we talk about it is. we typically use vocabulary to describe orientation that is relative to gender identity. that is, a person who is attracted to men is gay if they identify as a man or straight if they identify as a woman. that said, "transgender lesbian" shouldn't be too hard to parse unless you've been living under a rock for the last fifteen years.
- wtveb 7y agoFor some people their sexual tastes are their only source of identity and personality, so they go all the way to make sure they're unique.
- vore 7y agoThis is needlessly malicious. People have made the same argument for non-trans gay people and it's no less gross if you make it for trans gay people.
- wtveb 7y agoI have a solution for them: they should not express openly their sexuality. I don't care about their sexuality. Nobody cares about my or their sexuality. And if they make up a complicated sexuality and make it their identity, they should prepare to get mocked for it.
- kupiakos 7y agolesbian: woman who is attracted to women transgender: one whose gender identity does not match the sex they were assigned at birth A transgender lesbian, therefore, is a transgender woman ("male-to-female") who is attracted to women.
- sergiotapia 7y agoI didn't know this was really a thing, I've only heard of it on Mad TV when I was younger https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgcLfohtFbE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgcLfohtFbE
- Geeek 7y agoSerious question, how does being lesbian (sexual attraction description) go along with being asaxual, which I understand to mean the lack of sexual attraction to others?
- pseudalopex 7y agoRomantic attraction.
- Geeek 7y agoWhat is?
- krapp 7y agoOK. Assuming you're not being purposely obtuse: "lesbian" is not a "sexual attraction" description, it is an "attraction description" for which one possible dimension of attraction can be sexual. Same-sex attraction is no more exclusively about a desire for intercourse than opposite sex attraction. It's entirely possible to have a romantic attraction of any kind without also feeling a desire to engage in intercourse.
- lostgame 7y agoWhat is romantic attraction? o.o I shudder to think about your love life, if you solely define your relationships on sexuality alone. Sexuality is a step from an emotional state to a physical expression of that, of course outside of prostitution and casual hook-ups. And I don't mean that in a negative way, I just...feel sorry for you.
- tomatofan 7y agoAre you saying it's possible to be gainfully employed somewhere where the wokeness level isn't cranked to 11 and not be persecuted by cis-gen whitemale Christian bigots? Who knew?
- big_chungus 7y agoI wish more people realized this. I think many perceive more issues where there are simply usually not, because of increased access to information. Most people don't really care what you are or who you vote for as long as you show up, are pleasant, and do your job well. Capitalism is, in many ways, the great equalizer: money is green no matter who holds it.
- kupiakos 7y agoI'm a trans lesbian as well. I've had discussions about it at work. When coming out, I asked my coworkers to use she/her pronouns. I might mention my partner, or I mention to my manager that I'm going to need to leave work at X for electrolysis. I consider my being trans as an "open secret", where I won't open conversations with it, but I will mention it when I find it naturally relevant to the conversation. This works well for me because I have the privilege of passing as cis. All of these are regular everyday things for me, but I've had people tell me that even asking for basic respect is "disagreeing with their political opinion". The real problem is where the line is drawn, or whether a line can even be drawn.
- lostgame 7y agoI'm baffled by the level of ignorance in these comments, I'm used to a far higher awareness and intelligence in HN comments. The comments about being dependent on one's sexuality, or 'making it up,' and thusly being prepared to accept being mocked, are particularly disturbing. The inability to separate a romantic and sexual nature is more so just surprising. Very eye-opening responses for me.