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People have a hard time admitting in retrospect they wished they didn't have kids because of biological bonding. My life would have INFINITELY less responsibil
by auiya 7y ago
People have a hard time admitting in retrospect they wished they didn't have kids because of biological bonding. My life would have INFINITELY less responsibilities and much more money had I not had a child. Are those things worth trading in retrospect? I don't know the answer to that because the toothpaste is already out of the tube. I'm currently middle aged, but if given the opportunity to go back in time and choose to either have kids or not, I probably would have chosen not. It's not because I don't love my kid to the moon and back, but it's a huge responsibility not many people can deal with. It's worth noting this is mindset is exacerbated by being divorced from my child's other parent, and it forces me to have to interact with a formerly abusive partner periodically.
- throwaway97533 7y agoWhat would have happened to me if I hadn't become a father? Would I have been financially a lot better off without kids to pay for, free to do whatever I want, had a lot time to myself? Maybe. On the other hand, I might not be here. Having kids was the best reason not to commit suicide I've ever had.
- auiya 7y agoThat's rather drastic, but I'm glad that worked out well for you. Everyone thinks prior to having kids that their kids are going to be the next Carl Sagan. Nobody ever considers that their kids might be the next Jeffery Dahmer.