I think that BS only persists because not just because people allow it to, but some people positively get off on it. They love the opportunity to be the hero "

I think that BS only persists because not just because people allow it to, but some people positively get off on it. They love the opportunity to be the hero "I was up from 4 til 7 rebuilding the database -- you're welcome" and the ability to differentiate themselves without actually being competent at their jobs. Some roles (junior investment banking analysts, junior lawyers, etc) the long hours and weekends are part of an apprenticeship type weeding out process, and are almost a form of hazing ("I did it - you have to do it too") But at least in those cases there is an expected path out. It sounds like you are in a dysfunctional shop. If it's possible, move. It's not like that everywhere.