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assuming you're Caucasian, you also definitely took advantage of that and all it conveys (assumptions about status, avg height > some other races, etc.). quick

assuming you're Caucasian, you also definitely took advantage of that and all it conveys (assumptions about status, avg height > some other races, etc.). quick thought experiment: would say, a Hispanic looking person have the same success even if born in US? seems doubtful, so can't be purely location, but must include other factors. we compete for mates in relatively tight geographic locations and you're probably 95th percentile height/wealth/prestige in Mexico by merely showing up with an average US height and household income, easily 99th percentile with software engineering type income. so you arbitraged your attributes by moving to a place with more favorable comparisons to the local population to meet more women. no complaints from me on that part but that's not purely location, you're omitting crucial parts of what influenced the outcome.

InvaderFizz 7y ago
> we compete for mates in relatively tight geographic locations and you're probably 95th percentile height/wealth/prestige in Mexico by merely showing up with an average US height and household income, easily 99th percentile with software engineering type income. so you arbitraged your attributes by moving to a place with more favorable comparisons to the local population to meet more women. You're not wrong. I took largely the same approach as the parent commenter and ended up married to a Mexicana. My funnel ended up being relatively similar ratio to his, spread out over multiple countries over two years. I looked at it as probabilities game and just optimized my odds by looking in areas that: 1. What we call traditional gender/marriage roles, they just call normal. 2. I was a luxury/exotic good instead of another face in the crowd. > would say, a Hispanic looking person have the same success even if born in US? seems doubtful, so can't be purely location, but must include other factors. If that Hispanic person had the same 99th percentile software engineer income and a firm command of the Spanish language: I would say they would be in a weaker starting position in the funnel, but their success ratio after initial match would be significantly higher than the gringo with middling at best Spanish (me).
- strenholme 7y ago
  It’s not just an increased mating value (MV) because of relative economic prestige and more height. It’s also because the Hispanic culture is more open to relationships (both friendships and romantic ones), and because they don’t have the sexual hangups US culture has. I see this in my Facebook feed: My Latina friends are not afraid to tell sexual jokes or have sexually charged images on their timeline (one of the girls I dated, in fact, is a nude photographer); my US friends, on the other hand, never tell dirty jokes, and they only time they talk about sex is in relation to a sexual harassment allegation or a sexual assault story (my Latina friends also do this, but they aren’t afraid to admit they like sex).
  - InvaderFizz 7y ago
    > I see this in my Facebook feed: My Latina friends are not afraid to tell sexual jokes or have sexually charged images on their timeline (one of the girls I dated, in fact, is a nude photographer); my US friends, on the other hand, never tell dirty jokes, and they only time they talk about sex is in relation to a sexual harassment allegation or a sexual assault story (my Latina friends also do this, but they aren’t afraid to admit they like sex). This is certainly an accurate description of my wife's Facebook feed. My wife has been attempting to play matchmaker for friends and family in Mexico I have a few takeaways: - Latin America is flooded with women that are looking for a guy with a stable job, not a drunk, and wont cheat on them at the drop of a hat. (Men of means cheating seems to be the rule, not the exception) - Most of these women are not looking to get out of their country. They would very much prefer it if the guy could just move there and continue to make a middle class or better income. (Colombianas especially love Colombia. Something to consider for fully remote workers.) - The proliferation of location based dating apps like Tinder have decimated the feeding mechanism for a lot of international dating sites. If anyone knows what the viable options outside of Cupid Media properties are in 2019, she would love to know.
lsiebert 7y ago
FYI, Hispanic does not in fact mean noncaucasian, Caucasian does not in fact mean nonhispanic. Hispanic is an ethnicity, white is a racial group. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Hispanic_and_Latino_Americans https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Hispanic_and_Latino_Amer...

InvaderFizz 7y ago

> we compete for mates in relatively tight geographic locations and you're probably 95th percentile height/wealth/prestige in Mexico by merely showing up with an average US height and household income, easily 99th percentile with software engineering type income. so you arbitraged your attributes by moving to a place with more favorable comparisons to the local population to meet more women. You're not wrong. I took largely the same approach as the parent commenter and ended up married to a Mexicana. My funnel ended up being relatively similar ratio to his, spread out over multiple countries over two years. I looked at it as probabilities game and just optimized my odds by looking in areas that: 1. What we call traditional gender/marriage roles, they just call normal. 2. I was a luxury/exotic good instead of another face in the crowd. > would say, a Hispanic looking person have the same success even if born in US? seems doubtful, so can't be purely location, but must include other factors. If that Hispanic person had the same 99th percentile software engineer income and a firm command of the Spanish language: I would say they would be in a weaker starting position in the funnel, but their success ratio after initial match would be significantly higher than the gringo with middling at best Spanish (me).

strenholme 7y ago
It’s not just an increased mating value (MV) because of relative economic prestige and more height. It’s also because the Hispanic culture is more open to relationships (both friendships and romantic ones), and because they don’t have the sexual hangups US culture has. I see this in my Facebook feed: My Latina friends are not afraid to tell sexual jokes or have sexually charged images on their timeline (one of the girls I dated, in fact, is a nude photographer); my US friends, on the other hand, never tell dirty jokes, and they only time they talk about sex is in relation to a sexual harassment allegation or a sexual assault story (my Latina friends also do this, but they aren’t afraid to admit they like sex).
- InvaderFizz 7y ago
  > I see this in my Facebook feed: My Latina friends are not afraid to tell sexual jokes or have sexually charged images on their timeline (one of the girls I dated, in fact, is a nude photographer); my US friends, on the other hand, never tell dirty jokes, and they only time they talk about sex is in relation to a sexual harassment allegation or a sexual assault story (my Latina friends also do this, but they aren’t afraid to admit they like sex). This is certainly an accurate description of my wife's Facebook feed. My wife has been attempting to play matchmaker for friends and family in Mexico I have a few takeaways: - Latin America is flooded with women that are looking for a guy with a stable job, not a drunk, and wont cheat on them at the drop of a hat. (Men of means cheating seems to be the rule, not the exception) - Most of these women are not looking to get out of their country. They would very much prefer it if the guy could just move there and continue to make a middle class or better income. (Colombianas especially love Colombia. Something to consider for fully remote workers.) - The proliferation of location based dating apps like Tinder have decimated the feeding mechanism for a lot of international dating sites. If anyone knows what the viable options outside of Cupid Media properties are in 2019, she would love to know.

lsiebert 7y ago

FYI, Hispanic does not in fact mean noncaucasian, Caucasian does not in fact mean nonhispanic. Hispanic is an ethnicity, white is a racial group. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Hispanic_and_Latino_Americans https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Hispanic_and_Latino_Amer...