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Yep, and that was in a location which favored me. Online dating is a numbers game. Here’s what made Latin American dating bearable for me: If I hit the point

Yep, and that was in a location which favored me. Online dating is a numbers game. Here’s what made Latin American dating bearable for me: If I hit the point where we met in real life, I made sure to enjoy my time and company with the woman, even if we were not a romantic fit. I made a lot of friends who I could socialize and play cards with, so dating and meeting all these women was a lot of fun. Also, all the interaction made it a lot easier for me to read signals from women; when I met my wife, I was able to see she really wanted me and was already falling in love with me on our first date. Here in the US, women treat dating like a job interview, which I don’t enjoy as much as the “Hey, let me take you to the movies, play cards with you, and have fun socializing together as friends” mindset I had with Latin American women.

bksenior 7y ago
No US women dont, it's just more competitive (looks, power, wealth) so it feels that way. Girls here are like girls everywhere else, what you're likely feeling is not being as high on the mate scale as you are in other markets.
- strenholme 7y ago
  I beg to differ. People in Latin America, in general, value conversation and connections more than people in the US; the dating scene reflects this (I saw the same dynamics with non-dating connections). A latina girl who didn’t consider me romantically compatible was more likely to still enjoy hanging out and playing cards with me (looking at my online friend list, a lot of them are women I dated in Latin America, including, yes, ones who made it clear they didn’t want to get romantic with me), while the women I dated from online in the US were more like “I’m not meeting my goal of finding a mate here, so I don’t have time to waste on just a friendship”. Yes, there were two woman from church and social circle I dated in the US who I was able to keep productive friendships with (a couple are still my online friend today), so this isn’t a hard and fast rule. But, I have more than twice as many friends online from Latin America who were girls I briefly dated compared to US friends who were girls I briefly dated.

bksenior 7y ago

No US women dont, it's just more competitive (looks, power, wealth) so it feels that way. Girls here are like girls everywhere else, what you're likely feeling is not being as high on the mate scale as you are in other markets.

strenholme 7y ago
I beg to differ. People in Latin America, in general, value conversation and connections more than people in the US; the dating scene reflects this (I saw the same dynamics with non-dating connections). A latina girl who didn’t consider me romantically compatible was more likely to still enjoy hanging out and playing cards with me (looking at my online friend list, a lot of them are women I dated in Latin America, including, yes, ones who made it clear they didn’t want to get romantic with me), while the women I dated from online in the US were more like “I’m not meeting my goal of finding a mate here, so I don’t have time to waste on just a friendship”. Yes, there were two woman from church and social circle I dated in the US who I was able to keep productive friendships with (a couple are still my online friend today), so this isn’t a hard and fast rule. But, I have more than twice as many friends online from Latin America who were girls I briefly dated compared to US friends who were girls I briefly dated.