My wife used to assign important tasks in the form of a question until I told her if it’s a question don’t be surprised if I say no. However if you really wan

My wife used to assign important tasks in the form of a question until I told her if it’s a question don’t be surprised if I say no. However if you really want it done just say so and I’ll gladly do it no questions asked. And the whole “can you please” is just another form of coercion in my view - we’ve gotten so polite as a society no one dares damage their own or another’s fragile world when interacting with one another.