I've come to believe the interactions mostly feel genuine to others (and the intent, need, and desire for positive communication and interaction truly is genuin

I've come to believe the interactions mostly feel genuine to others (and the intent, need, and desire for positive communication and interaction truly is genuine), and sure there are slip ups but that's typical for most people... I worry much less about that performance as I age. What I struggle with now is the implications to others who I have more intimate relationships with. Having such a cerebral social presence and experience, even if you are very kind in intention and action, causes people close to you to feel as though perhaps it isn't genuine or done with any feeling. It makes you seem less emotionally invested, less attached, etc. At least that's been my experience. I haven't found a way to break through that and have lost relationships over it. But you probably are smart enough to socialize just fine – I think the harder thing to crack is how far that can extend into your closer relationships.