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The second it starts going off the rails it needs to be switched over to a private conversation, ideally face-to-face but by videoconference otherwise if someon
by CydeWeys 7y ago
The second it starts going off the rails it needs to be switched over to a private conversation, ideally face-to-face but by videoconference otherwise if someone is remote.
That's bad form on both people's part to have that kind of argument in a public forum.
- whywhywhywhy 7y ago> The second it starts going off the rails it needs to be switched over to a private conversation Can be just as bad, theres an exec where I work who has taken a disliking to me and I'd much rather when he goes off on one it takes place in Google docs comments where other people can see it and see what he's like than in a private Slack convo where only I see it.
- CydeWeys 7y agoI was saying to de-escalate in private, not escalate in private. This exec you're dealing with sounds terrible, and depending on how often you have to deal with him, might be worth finding a new job over.
- andy_ppp 7y agoYup, I would just ask him outright how you can improve your working relationship. Being direct with people like that often might not work in the moment but saying things like “I don’t think we understand where each other are coming from” could get him thinking. It’s unlikely to work however so look to the job market while things are good.
- bduerst 7y agoYep, but that can backfire as well if the angry person thinks you're trying to control them. Sometimes it's just best to let them vent, and if it gets nasty, document it and deal with the consequences later.