Theory: Love isn't an emotional state as such. It's best thought of as a mental function that transforms how you frame situations from negative or indifferent r

Theory: Love isn't an emotional state as such. It's best thought of as a mental function that transforms how you frame situations from negative or indifferent reactions into more positive ones. It converts Apathy -> Engagement, Anger -> Forgiveness, Disgust -> Compassion, Fear -> Optimism. For example, I love my children so I want to be engaged in their lives, I forgive them easily when they make mistakes, I do not think twice about helping them if they vomit or can't make it to the toilet in time, and I am excited and optimistic for their future. For other people, I might not naturally have the same kinds of reactions. If you buy this definition of love then the opposite would be cynicism, which would produce both apathy and hate depending on the situation.