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Huh? With dating, don’t you want to display your personality vibrantly so that you can more effectively filter for those who want to be with someone like you?

jvagner 7y ago
No, you want to entice. The more you say, the more content you’re providing that will lead to a dismissal.
- b_tterc_p 7y ago
  Unless... you don’t want to meet people who wouldn’t want to meet you due to knowing more about you
  - jvagner 7y ago
    That works at deeper levels of the game. But in level one, it's not always advisable to hold too hard on this move. Better to assume that most players on Tinder want Criterion, but pick Netflix.
paulcole 7y ago
You are making the common mistake of confusing actual dating with using a dating website. The goal of the dating website is to get a date. You do that by finding someone who seems interesting and who does not have any red flags. Why put out more information than is needed and give more for people to find something wrong with you?
- KaoruAoiShiho 7y ago
  Presumably OP wants a decent relationship rather than just another increment on his scorecard. But point taken if the goal is to maximize the number of yeses.
  - paulcole 7y ago
    The goal on a dating site should always be to maximize the number of in-person yeses. You’re not going to figure out if you want a decent relationship by reading a profile. Meet in person for coffee and find out if it’s worth going on an actual date.
cthalupa 7y ago
Well, maybe. Sometimes compatibility isn't really based on shared interests or other things that, well, make sense. Sometimes people work out that you can't really rationalize. It also depends on what type of dating you're interested in - it's way less important for casual dating and hookups. With that you're more likely to filter yourself out than increase the chances of success. For more serious dating for someone that cares about their partner having shared interests, etc., then yes, being filtered out is a feature and not a bug.
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jvagner 7y ago

No, you want to entice. The more you say, the more content you’re providing that will lead to a dismissal.

b_tterc_p 7y ago
Unless... you don’t want to meet people who wouldn’t want to meet you due to knowing more about you
- jvagner 7y ago
  That works at deeper levels of the game. But in level one, it's not always advisable to hold too hard on this move. Better to assume that most players on Tinder want Criterion, but pick Netflix.

paulcole 7y ago

You are making the common mistake of confusing actual dating with using a dating website. The goal of the dating website is to get a date. You do that by finding someone who seems interesting and who does not have any red flags. Why put out more information than is needed and give more for people to find something wrong with you?

KaoruAoiShiho 7y ago
Presumably OP wants a decent relationship rather than just another increment on his scorecard. But point taken if the goal is to maximize the number of yeses.
- paulcole 7y ago
  The goal on a dating site should always be to maximize the number of in-person yeses. You’re not going to figure out if you want a decent relationship by reading a profile. Meet in person for coffee and find out if it’s worth going on an actual date.

cthalupa 7y ago

Well, maybe. Sometimes compatibility isn't really based on shared interests or other things that, well, make sense. Sometimes people work out that you can't really rationalize. It also depends on what type of dating you're interested in - it's way less important for casual dating and hookups. With that you're more likely to filter yourself out than increase the chances of success. For more serious dating for someone that cares about their partner having shared interests, etc., then yes, being filtered out is a feature and not a bug.

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