5 ms·
This is actually a really good point. The more information you give in general just creates more vectors for unwanted biases.
by notus 7y ago
This is actually a really good point. The more information you give in general just creates more vectors for unwanted biases.
- paulcole 7y agoAlso the #1 rule to creating a successful profile on a dating site. Say the absolute minimum and nothing more. Better to remain quiet and be thought a fool than open your mouth and remove all doubt.
- afarrell 7y agoHuh? With dating, don’t you want to display your personality vibrantly so that you can more effectively filter for those who want to be with someone like you?
- jvagner 7y agoNo, you want to entice. The more you say, the more content you’re providing that will lead to a dismissal.
- b_tterc_p 7y agoUnless... you don’t want to meet people who wouldn’t want to meet you due to knowing more about you
- jvagner 7y agoThat works at deeper levels of the game. But in level one, it's not always advisable to hold too hard on this move. Better to assume that most players on Tinder want Criterion, but pick Netflix.
- paulcole 7y agoYou are making the common mistake of confusing actual dating with using a dating website. The goal of the dating website is to get a date. You do that by finding someone who seems interesting and who does not have any red flags. Why put out more information than is needed and give more for people to find something wrong with you?
- KaoruAoiShiho 7y agoPresumably OP wants a decent relationship rather than just another increment on his scorecard. But point taken if the goal is to maximize the number of yeses.
- paulcole 7y agoThe goal on a dating site should always be to maximize the number of in-person yeses. You’re not going to figure out if you want a decent relationship by reading a profile. Meet in person for coffee and find out if it’s worth going on an actual date.
- cthalupa 7y agoWell, maybe. Sometimes compatibility isn't really based on shared interests or other things that, well, make sense. Sometimes people work out that you can't really rationalize. It also depends on what type of dating you're interested in - it's way less important for casual dating and hookups. With that you're more likely to filter yourself out than increase the chances of success. For more serious dating for someone that cares about their partner having shared interests, etc., then yes, being filtered out is a feature and not a bug.
- deleted 7y ago[deleted]
- tluyben2 7y agoI ran a big (for the region) general (as in not niche) dating site and I would say it is more nuanced than that. By far most people complaining that they did not get any interest had minimal profiles. When they wrote more, they got more. When they wrote too much, it went down again. So minimum as in; the minimum to entice, and I would say most people do not know what that is, so they write too little or too much as a result. Probably the same for resumes.
- paulcole 7y agoYour last point is probably accurate. I write professionally and have done so for 12+ years at this point. I guess the tricky part is hitting the balance of writing just enough but not any more.
- Nasrudith 7y agoI thought the point of a dating profile was to filter out incompatible matches and avoid wasting everyone's time. Granted I am hardly an expert.