> If you judge a prospective counselor by the color of their skin you are IMHO part of the problem. There's a rather small but critical lack of nuance in your

> If you judge a prospective counselor by the color of their skin you are IMHO part of the problem. There's a rather small but critical lack of nuance in your sentiment. The idea isn't that you judge the person because of their skin color. Nobody is saying being white or black makes you a worse or better counselor or person. The idea is that you merely judge the likelihood that the person will be able to relate to you about something in your own personal life. There's nothing "problematic" about making that kind of judgment. It doesn't need to be justified or rational to anybody else. It's your personal life that you're looking for someone to open up to. Nobody else has any right to anything in your personal life, and you have every right and responsibility to make it better by your own criteria. If there's any problem here, it's the sentiment that other people have a right to dictate whom you should and shouldn't involve in your personal life.