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I've also seen that people are losing ability to tolerate each other in relationship. Every relationship advice offered on internet sounds like, "he is abuser,

I've also seen that people are losing ability to tolerate each other in relationship. Every relationship advice offered on internet sounds like, "he is abuser, breakup now" and people are assumed as perfect who make one mistake and they have to be walked out of your life. There is also rise of movements like Femminism and MGTOW. A lot of females are now career focused and have no time to maintain relationship. A few are able to manage both at once. But many come out for dating when they are in 30s and they are confused like "I am educated and indepdent girl, why guys aren't interested in me". Men don't seem to value a women with career as much as females would like, they find it favourable yes but it's extremely weak. Sometimes back I read in study that younger couples have more attractive kids and the kids who are product of love marriage are more attractive than those of arranged marriage. Now, I can see why it could be that because when we are younger we are more superficial, we are more optimistic, more shallow and as we've less disappointments under our belt (due to less experience) we aim for most good looking and those who are able to succeed (maybe because they are themself good looking?), obviously end up with good looking partner and it can also be possible that reproductive process is better (less errors?) when we are younger. Women also have very high standards when it comes to dating, they want too 10-15% men in looks and they compete for them. In such system, obviously the men who are in demand will see that they are rare and will exploit the opportunity and many women will be disappointed. Repeated failures can also lead a person to depression and anxiety. Plus, lot of people look at Instagram and find perfect looking people and start thinking of themselves as inferior. Attractive people are rare 1 in 1000 looks stunning without makeup or other camera effects. This rate could be higher in developed economies due to proper nutrition received throughout life and better healthcare facilities. It also depends on individual's and their family's awareness. But it's not a hard rule, people marry quite late in developed countries which can lead to unattractive kids. Just looking at the number of people subscribing to those groups on Reddit, seems alarming. A lot of people just do what internet tells them to do. Kids often say, "leave it, you'll not understand" instead of making you understand what their problem truly is.

js8 7y ago
These are all valid points, but it cannot be the explanation because the anxiety in teenage girls happens before there are any meaningful romantic relationships.
countryqt30 7y ago
Love this comment, 100% agree
oceanghost 7y ago
I've experienced this dating women in their 20's. The problem in a nutshell is, the roles are changing right now, and nobody knows what they're supposed to be doing. There's a very, very large disconnect between what people are being told vs. what is actually happening. The young women I've been involved with want you to be manly and aggressive while simultaneously cowering and politically correct. No matter what you do, you're always wrong. They pick some fight, then move onto the next person. I've been dumped for being too strong (physically). I've been dumped for having the wrong political opinions. For not agreeing with obviously false statements. Never a discussion. I've been dumped for "being smart." I've been dumped for wanting to be monogamous. It's always easier for them to move on then to self evaluate. Then around 25, the dating scene changes. From 18-25 women control the dating because they control the vagina supply. However, the moment a woman decides she wants to get married, men control the wedding ring supply. Suddenly, for the first time, these women find themselves with very little leverage and very bad attitudes, and some of them never adjust. A lot of them don't know how to read body language or facial expressions, or how subtext works — leading to lots of awkward moments. A woman invited me to her place once (for sex). When I got there, we sat on the couch, and she hugged a giant pillow very tightly and never got close to me. We just ended up talking for a bit, and she texted later and asked, "Why didn't we have sex? Are you not attracted to me?" I explained that her body language was not that of a person who wanted to have sex and I was being respectful. With all of these women I've seen, there's just a disconnect from the reality of the situation. I have a friend whose married, has four children, two very tough jobs, and is in a poly marriage. She complains to no end about how men "only want sex." Well, yes of course my dear-- you're MARRIED. Now, I'm not saying dating men is any easier for women. I just haven't been on that side of the table. I would love to hear from someone.

js8 7y ago

These are all valid points, but it cannot be the explanation because the anxiety in teenage girls happens before there are any meaningful romantic relationships.

countryqt30 7y ago

Love this comment, 100% agree

oceanghost 7y ago

I've experienced this dating women in their 20's. The problem in a nutshell is, the roles are changing right now, and nobody knows what they're supposed to be doing. There's a very, very large disconnect between what people are being told vs. what is actually happening. The young women I've been involved with want you to be manly and aggressive while simultaneously cowering and politically correct. No matter what you do, you're always wrong. They pick some fight, then move onto the next person. I've been dumped for being too strong (physically). I've been dumped for having the wrong political opinions. For not agreeing with obviously false statements. Never a discussion. I've been dumped for "being smart." I've been dumped for wanting to be monogamous. It's always easier for them to move on then to self evaluate. Then around 25, the dating scene changes. From 18-25 women control the dating because they control the vagina supply. However, the moment a woman decides she wants to get married, men control the wedding ring supply. Suddenly, for the first time, these women find themselves with very little leverage and very bad attitudes, and some of them never adjust. A lot of them don't know how to read body language or facial expressions, or how subtext works — leading to lots of awkward moments. A woman invited me to her place once (for sex). When I got there, we sat on the couch, and she hugged a giant pillow very tightly and never got close to me. We just ended up talking for a bit, and she texted later and asked, "Why didn't we have sex? Are you not attracted to me?" I explained that her body language was not that of a person who wanted to have sex and I was being respectful. With all of these women I've seen, there's just a disconnect from the reality of the situation. I have a friend whose married, has four children, two very tough jobs, and is in a poly marriage. She complains to no end about how men "only want sex." Well, yes of course my dear-- you're MARRIED. Now, I'm not saying dating men is any easier for women. I just haven't been on that side of the table. I would love to hear from someone.