I have found the Buddhist's have a neat trick to this. I think it boils down all of life is suffering, but suffering is just an illusion. When you start seeing

I have found the Buddhist's have a neat trick to this. I think it boils down all of life is suffering, but suffering is just an illusion. When you start seeing reality that way, it becomes easier to detach emotionally from everything. It's not that you don't care, you obviously can. But the physiological stress responses like the one your describing can be neutralized by training the response system. If you have watched talks by Buddhist monks[1] they have described people who suffer from horrible neurological disorders that cause them feeling of pain almost like a chainsaw and the emotional response from that. But through meditation and other practices their heart rate and brain responses can be calmer than the average person. This is by no means easy it takes years of dedication of aligning your physiological systems with the mental one. But at the end of the day everything is just more or less chemicals and electrical impulses to various parts of the body. Knowing that is the ultimate freedom from that. There are usually lots of factors involve whether its fear, anxiety and the whole spectrum of "darkness" needs to be addressed at a deeper level. [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fixvb3s25Uk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fixvb3s25Uk