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This one hits home. I have been arguing with my wife over stupid things that have been triggering my anger. Two weeks ago I ended up in the emergency room with

This one hits home. I have been arguing with my wife over stupid things that have been triggering my anger. Two weeks ago I ended up in the emergency room with a heart rate of 220. Got diagnosed with Supraventricular Tachycardia. I have continued having episodes and it is obvious to me that the trigger is anxiety. I worry a lot about too many things. Always thinking of worst case scenario. I have a cardiology appointment in a few hours and depending how that goes my next step is to see a doctor to get my anxiety under control. Hopeful it will stop my anger issues. Edit: I would also like to add that I think my anxiety and preparing for worst case scenario in everything I do has been a factor in my career success. I worry I will lose my "edge" if I change. Looking for advice on this.

ram_rar 7y ago
I thought, I was the only one like that. Always, thinking of the worst case scenario and lowering down my expectations so that I never feel disappointed. I would love some help on this as well.
kbos87 7y ago
I’ve been thinking about this a lot too. It seems like anxiety, paranoia, hyper vigilance, and obsessive behavior are unintentionally encouraged and rewarded in the workplace. At least most of the people who have risen quickly around me have some elements of this. I hope and wish there were another path to success, but I don’t see many counter-examples in my day to day.
TheLegace 7y ago
I have found the Buddhist's have a neat trick to this. I think it boils down all of life is suffering, but suffering is just an illusion. When you start seeing reality that way, it becomes easier to detach emotionally from everything. It's not that you don't care, you obviously can. But the physiological stress responses like the one your describing can be neutralized by training the response system. If you have watched talks by Buddhist monks[1] they have described people who suffer from horrible neurological disorders that cause them feeling of pain almost like a chainsaw and the emotional response from that. But through meditation and other practices their heart rate and brain responses can be calmer than the average person. This is by no means easy it takes years of dedication of aligning your physiological systems with the mental one. But at the end of the day everything is just more or less chemicals and electrical impulses to various parts of the body. Knowing that is the ultimate freedom from that. There are usually lots of factors involve whether its fear, anxiety and the whole spectrum of "darkness" needs to be addressed at a deeper level. [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fixvb3s25Uk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fixvb3s25Uk
Domenic_S 7y ago
For what it's worth, anxiety can be well-managed through a combination of medication and habits, depending on your own situation and body. Ask me how I know. Hang in there, the suffering does have a good end.

ram_rar 7y ago

I thought, I was the only one like that. Always, thinking of the worst case scenario and lowering down my expectations so that I never feel disappointed. I would love some help on this as well.

kbos87 7y ago

I’ve been thinking about this a lot too. It seems like anxiety, paranoia, hyper vigilance, and obsessive behavior are unintentionally encouraged and rewarded in the workplace. At least most of the people who have risen quickly around me have some elements of this. I hope and wish there were another path to success, but I don’t see many counter-examples in my day to day.

TheLegace 7y ago

I have found the Buddhist's have a neat trick to this. I think it boils down all of life is suffering, but suffering is just an illusion. When you start seeing reality that way, it becomes easier to detach emotionally from everything. It's not that you don't care, you obviously can. But the physiological stress responses like the one your describing can be neutralized by training the response system. If you have watched talks by Buddhist monks[1] they have described people who suffer from horrible neurological disorders that cause them feeling of pain almost like a chainsaw and the emotional response from that. But through meditation and other practices their heart rate and brain responses can be calmer than the average person. This is by no means easy it takes years of dedication of aligning your physiological systems with the mental one. But at the end of the day everything is just more or less chemicals and electrical impulses to various parts of the body. Knowing that is the ultimate freedom from that. There are usually lots of factors involve whether its fear, anxiety and the whole spectrum of "darkness" needs to be addressed at a deeper level. [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fixvb3s25Uk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fixvb3s25Uk

Domenic_S 7y ago

For what it's worth, anxiety can be well-managed through a combination of medication and habits, depending on your own situation and body. Ask me how I know. Hang in there, the suffering does have a good end.