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If I may be so bold as to inquire, what was your path to stop drinking? Do you find you replaced it with another coping mechanism?

ZitchDog 7y ago
Not OP, but I had a similar experience. Getting to the root of things with CBT caused me to completely change my relationship with alcohol. At this point, heavy drinking has become a clear path to increasing my anxiety, and it’s easy to abstain.
- szemet 7y ago
  Not OP, and kind of cliché (with the common corollaly to seek professional advice instead of internet wisdom), but: excercise - and for me it was more anxiety+smoking but less anxiety led to less drinking too(which I did not recognize as a problem at the time) I consciously used it as a replacement: when I was stressed and need of a cigarette, I told myself that I actually feel the miss of a good run - and for me running really helped somewhat, so it was enough to start a positive feedback loop. It is also good that both drinking and smoking makes excercising harder, which I tried to (and many times could) use as a fact against them ("if i now drink i wont be able to wake up early enough to go for a run", "if i smoke it will much harder to breath") And another internet wisdom cliché ;) regarding anxiety: stop drinking coffee (tea...)...
- alien14 7y ago
  How did you practice CBT? Yourself? With a therapist? A workbook?
throwaway93749 7y ago
In my case, getting hired by one of the Big Four tech companies. Always was a high performer, but didn't feel satisfied at other companies. I felt I was worth much more than what I was getting paid. I needed the validation and at least the perception of being with the best. I kept pushing my application since it felt daunting and I had failed Google once. I also made up excuses why a big tech company isn't worth it anyway, and that I shouldn't have to go through whiteboarding. But I'm much, much happier now. Glad I gave it a shot.
- lawnchair_larry 7y ago
  What are the big 4 tech companies? I’ve heard that in accounting, but I don’t know which 4 they would be in tech.
  - davidjnelson 7y ago
    (F)acebook, (A)mazon, (N)etflix, (G)oogle.
    - purple_ducks 7y ago
      A is not Amazon, it's Apple. Amazon does not have the same technical hurdle as the others.
      - eckza 7y ago
        > AWS
      - close04 7y ago
        There are 2 As in FAANG.
    - mkl 7y ago
      Microsoft and Apple each have over twenty times more employees than Netflix. I've never understood why Netflix is included, in FAANG, etc.
      - runako 7y ago
        FANG was coined to characterize a sliver of the stock market. It's all about the returns those stocks were producing over a period of time, and how they frequently traded together. It has basically nothing to do with: revenues, profits, employees, products, technology.
      - jdminhbg 7y ago
        It's at least 90% because it makes the acronym work.

ZitchDog 7y ago

Not OP, but I had a similar experience. Getting to the root of things with CBT caused me to completely change my relationship with alcohol. At this point, heavy drinking has become a clear path to increasing my anxiety, and it’s easy to abstain.

szemet 7y ago
Not OP, and kind of cliché (with the common corollaly to seek professional advice instead of internet wisdom), but: excercise - and for me it was more anxiety+smoking but less anxiety led to less drinking too(which I did not recognize as a problem at the time) I consciously used it as a replacement: when I was stressed and need of a cigarette, I told myself that I actually feel the miss of a good run - and for me running really helped somewhat, so it was enough to start a positive feedback loop. It is also good that both drinking and smoking makes excercising harder, which I tried to (and many times could) use as a fact against them ("if i now drink i wont be able to wake up early enough to go for a run", "if i smoke it will much harder to breath") And another internet wisdom cliché ;) regarding anxiety: stop drinking coffee (tea...)...
alien14 7y ago
How did you practice CBT? Yourself? With a therapist? A workbook?

throwaway93749 7y ago

In my case, getting hired by one of the Big Four tech companies. Always was a high performer, but didn't feel satisfied at other companies. I felt I was worth much more than what I was getting paid. I needed the validation and at least the perception of being with the best. I kept pushing my application since it felt daunting and I had failed Google once. I also made up excuses why a big tech company isn't worth it anyway, and that I shouldn't have to go through whiteboarding. But I'm much, much happier now. Glad I gave it a shot.

lawnchair_larry 7y ago
What are the big 4 tech companies? I’ve heard that in accounting, but I don’t know which 4 they would be in tech.
- davidjnelson 7y ago
  (F)acebook, (A)mazon, (N)etflix, (G)oogle.
  - purple_ducks 7y ago
    A is not Amazon, it's Apple. Amazon does not have the same technical hurdle as the others.
    - eckza 7y ago
      > AWS
    - close04 7y ago
      There are 2 As in FAANG.
  - mkl 7y ago
    Microsoft and Apple each have over twenty times more employees than Netflix. I've never understood why Netflix is included, in FAANG, etc.
    - runako 7y ago
      FANG was coined to characterize a sliver of the stock market. It's all about the returns those stocks were producing over a period of time, and how they frequently traded together. It has basically nothing to do with: revenues, profits, employees, products, technology.
    - jdminhbg 7y ago
      It's at least 90% because it makes the acronym work.