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Alexis conflates two things here: caring for his gravely ill wife, which U.S. law protects with 12 weeks through FMLA (unpaid, admittedly), and paternity leave.
by lr4444lr 7y ago
Alexis conflates two things here: caring for his gravely ill wife, which U.S. law protects with 12 weeks through FMLA (unpaid, admittedly), and paternity leave. I don't think that staying out for a long stretch is a wise idea barring some unusual postpartum circumstance, and I certainly didn't do it even given the option. Taking a little time off to readjust to the baby's habits, but getting back to working reduced hours and some remote work if possible as quickly as possible seems better. Being productive at work is part of mental health, and I found it restorative to be able to have those periods without moment to moment concern for the baby.
- untog 7y agoCouldn't disagree more. I took eight weeks off when my child was born and I couldn't be happier that I did. I fail to see why it isn't a "wise idea" and why returning to work quickly "seems better".
- op00to 7y agoPretending to be busy is very effective as long as you are there to keep the ruse alive. Once you’re not there and your work is how you’re judged, things fall apart quickly. That’s why it’s a bad idea for some people to take leave. :)