If something is written down before you were even hired and it says no, then you know that the people are saying 'no' not because they don't like you or some ot

If something is written down before you were even hired and it says no, then you know that the people are saying 'no' not because they don't like you or some other petty interpersonal political reason, but because of the actual technical reasons or some overarching political reason unrelated to you, personally. When something isn't personal, it diffuses a lot of emotional tension. Our monkey brains jump to taking things personally way too easily probably as some sort of early tribal instinct for survival. I don't really understand what you mean by personal otherwise? I was implying 'personal' was specific person personal.