The funny thing is we're all making trade-offs at various times. So there will be people who will point at someone else and say "He's a no-man" and at other poi

The funny thing is we're all making trade-offs at various times. So there will be people who will point at someone else and say "He's a no-man" and at other points they will be the "no-man". I remember saying "no" a lot at some points of my life, and I think it was because I hadn't yet learned to say "the cost of that is this and in my opinion it isn't worth it" but there are still times I am speaking to people where they are unable to truly grok the cost given my current skill of explaining and then it probably looks like I'm a no-man. Besides, come on, who even has dogmatic rules like "No Swap In Production". That's just short-hand for a concept. When it's in dispute you have to trace the reasoning again. There's no alternative. I cannot imagine doing something only because someone said so. I certainly recall a time when someone said "Person X isn't going to like this" and saying "Well, then, person X is going to have to find another way to solve your problem". I certainly hope that if I'm person X in someone else's story, they take the same approach. And if you have to trace the reasoning more than once, it's probably worth writing down your argument. Not as a big RFC-style thing necessarily, but even just a Slack thread you can point to.