And I also had a 3 hour meeting today with co-workers that I enjoy working with, solving a problem we all care about. That was work. I'll be commuting home for

And I also had a 3 hour meeting today with co-workers that I enjoy working with, solving a problem we all care about. That was work. I'll be commuting home for an hour. That is work. Tonight I'll be putting the kids to bed, then tidying up the kitchen. That is also work. I think it is fair to say, that as an adult with kids, much of your time that you aren't doing something just for you, will to a degree be work. And that is OK. As long as you and your partner are happy with the split you have, then that is OK too.