This is badly conflating things. Few care how any particular family divides up their responsibilities. It's only the gender part, the lack of agency, that is cr

This is badly conflating things. Few care how any particular family divides up their responsibilities. It's only the gender part, the lack of agency, that is criticized. A woman shouldn't have to be a homemaker and a man shouldn't have to be a breadwinner but it's fine if they choose those things for themselves in a society that will accept and respect them regardless.