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So did the wife just tolerate the smell during sex? Was there no sex? Just seems so unhygienic for intimacy.

k__ 7y ago
There is a running-gag in the gay community "a guy with an unwashed ass" which is used for straight guys. Also, many women told me that they were in love with guys with bad hygiene, some of them never washing between their cheeks because "nothing goes between my ass cheeks, that's gay shit!" Some women even going so far as saying "if sexuality was a choice, why in their right mind would anyone choose (unwashed) men?!" So maybe this isn't that big of a problem in terms of sex and intimacy as you and I would think?
- falcrist 7y ago
  Memes aside... Sex has weird and sometimes offensive smells. This holds true for queer folks, straight folks, and even folks with good hygiene. I feel like most sexually active adults already know this. You aren't always going to get a shower and a toothbrush just prior to bumping uglies.
  - k__ 7y ago
    Body odors are one thing. Not having showered for weeks is another.
    - wingerlang 7y ago
      Maybe, when everyone stinks you'd get used to it and think nothing of it?
      - Doubl 7y ago
        I once spent a summer working in the equivalent of a knacker's yard. The first day or two there the smell was appalling but it got to the stage where I no longer noticed it. People away from work noticed me though!
  - csomar 7y ago
    > Sex has weird and sometimes offensive smells. Check the condom brand/type. Sex has no smell most of the time. I found the condom to be the culprit.
    - falcrist 7y ago
      > Sex has no smell most of the time. Your bodily fluids have a smell. Maybe you can't smell them, but other people can.
  - magic_beans 7y ago
    There's a huge difference between washed-in-the-last-day-or-two genital odor and MONTHS of unwashed genitals!!
- DATACOMMANDER 7y ago
  Straight guy here. Anyone who doesn’t wash their ass is fucking disgusting.
  - csomar 7y ago
    Many people in the modern world don't. It was a surprise/culture-shock to find that France and the USA don't have any kind of bidet on their toilets.
    - DATACOMMANDER 7y ago
      Yeah, I’m a Yank and I think it’s kind of gross that we don’t wash after every bowel movement. But taking that a step further and not even washing your ass while showering is just foul.
EForEndeavour 7y ago
I have to wonder if body odour ramps up exponentially for the first few days of not bathing, but then fades into a less nauseating background musk after powering through the initial spike. Maybe skin flora eventually stabilize toward a less offensive culture?
- jdmichal 7y ago
  There's theories out there that bacteria that oxidizes ammonia would have been pretty common. Before treated water and daily soaping. https://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/magazine/my-no-soap-no-shampoo-bacteria-rich-hygiene-experiment.html https://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/magazine/my-no-soap-no-sh...
- joegahona 7y ago
  Anecdotal, but I worked with a guy who didn't bathe due to religious reasons. The body odor from him did _not_ fade.
  - zarq 7y ago
    What religion would that be?
    - pferde 7y ago
      Bumism, orthodox.
      - EForEndeavour 7y ago
        The Google Image Search results for "Bumism" are pretty hilarious. https://www.google.com/search?q=Bumism&tbm=isch https://www.google.com/search?q=Bumism&tbm=isch
userbinator 7y ago
I suspect at those times everyone reeked relative to today, but they just didn't have anything better to compare to.

k__ 7y ago

There is a running-gag in the gay community "a guy with an unwashed ass" which is used for straight guys. Also, many women told me that they were in love with guys with bad hygiene, some of them never washing between their cheeks because "nothing goes between my ass cheeks, that's gay shit!" Some women even going so far as saying "if sexuality was a choice, why in their right mind would anyone choose (unwashed) men?!" So maybe this isn't that big of a problem in terms of sex and intimacy as you and I would think?

falcrist 7y ago
Memes aside... Sex has weird and sometimes offensive smells. This holds true for queer folks, straight folks, and even folks with good hygiene. I feel like most sexually active adults already know this. You aren't always going to get a shower and a toothbrush just prior to bumping uglies.
- k__ 7y ago
  Body odors are one thing. Not having showered for weeks is another.
  - wingerlang 7y ago
    Maybe, when everyone stinks you'd get used to it and think nothing of it?
    - Doubl 7y ago
      I once spent a summer working in the equivalent of a knacker's yard. The first day or two there the smell was appalling but it got to the stage where I no longer noticed it. People away from work noticed me though!
- csomar 7y ago
  > Sex has weird and sometimes offensive smells. Check the condom brand/type. Sex has no smell most of the time. I found the condom to be the culprit.
  - falcrist 7y ago
    > Sex has no smell most of the time. Your bodily fluids have a smell. Maybe you can't smell them, but other people can.
- magic_beans 7y ago
  There's a huge difference between washed-in-the-last-day-or-two genital odor and MONTHS of unwashed genitals!!
DATACOMMANDER 7y ago
Straight guy here. Anyone who doesn’t wash their ass is fucking disgusting.
- csomar 7y ago
  Many people in the modern world don't. It was a surprise/culture-shock to find that France and the USA don't have any kind of bidet on their toilets.
  - DATACOMMANDER 7y ago
    Yeah, I’m a Yank and I think it’s kind of gross that we don’t wash after every bowel movement. But taking that a step further and not even washing your ass while showering is just foul.

EForEndeavour 7y ago

I have to wonder if body odour ramps up exponentially for the first few days of not bathing, but then fades into a less nauseating background musk after powering through the initial spike. Maybe skin flora eventually stabilize toward a less offensive culture?

jdmichal 7y ago
There's theories out there that bacteria that oxidizes ammonia would have been pretty common. Before treated water and daily soaping. https://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/magazine/my-no-soap-no-shampoo-bacteria-rich-hygiene-experiment.html https://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/magazine/my-no-soap-no-sh...
joegahona 7y ago
Anecdotal, but I worked with a guy who didn't bathe due to religious reasons. The body odor from him did _not_ fade.
- zarq 7y ago
  What religion would that be?
  - pferde 7y ago
    Bumism, orthodox.
    - EForEndeavour 7y ago
      The Google Image Search results for "Bumism" are pretty hilarious. https://www.google.com/search?q=Bumism&tbm=isch https://www.google.com/search?q=Bumism&tbm=isch

userbinator 7y ago

I suspect at those times everyone reeked relative to today, but they just didn't have anything better to compare to.