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reminds me of this quora question and excellent answers What do people in Silicon Valley plan to do once they are over 35 since most will neither make it big n

by wenbin 7y ago

reminds me of this quora question and excellent answers What do people in Silicon Valley plan to do once they are over 35 since most will neither make it big nor move up the management chain of command? https://www.quora.com/What-do-people-in-Silicon-Valley-plan-to-do-once-they-are-over-35-since-most-will-neither-make-it-big-nor-move-up-the-management-chain-of-command https://www.quora.com/What-do-people-in-Silicon-Valley-plan-...

angarg12 7y ago
This is something I'm battling with right now. As I get older, it's more common to see people younger than me being more successful. When you are starting your career, you only see all the possibilities to fulfill your goals. As you age and don't get quite there, you start to question if you are good enough, and wonder if you'll ever reach your goals, or should just give up. It takes a lot of discipline to keep the right state of mind.
- Swizec 7y ago
  As someone going through this right now (turning 32 in October, eek) I've come to realize a few things that have helped. "Good enough" is an all encompassing set of criteria. You can be the most brilliant person in the world, but if you are unable or unwilling to take the necessary risks to achieve X, then you re not good enough. If you're too risk taking, that's also not good enough. Everything plays into that. Like a former F1 driver whose name I can't remember said in a podcast once: "Yeah I was good. I was really good. On my best days I was faster than Schumacher, Senna, Prost, and all of them" ... "So why weren't you champion?" ... "Well that's the thing. I was amazing on my good days. The real champions, the ones that make history, they don't have bad days or good days. They're _always_ at their best." The other realization: You play the cards you've got, not the cards you wish you had. Wherever you are right now, whatever you've got in terms of skill, assets, connections, etc ... that's what you've got to work with. Focus on playing the hand you have the best way you can.
- mrtksn 7y ago
  Just update your goals. Who says that one accomplishment is better than the other? You are not a quitter or a failure only because you did not complete a goal that was arbitrarily created by a younger you or someone else. Surely some material success needs to be accomplished but it is proven that above a certain level the returns of it in term of happiness diminish. You can also forget about goals that younger you imposed on you. I am sure that even younger you imposed even sillier goals that you just outgrew. Maybe you aspired to be the best in Counter-Strike, date the most popular girl/guy in high school or becoming a great PHP developer who works for Yahoo? Who knows but nobody cares anymore. You can outgrow the current ones too. Opportunities and aspirations come and go as we grow, age, get sick or well, poorer or richer. Don't stick to the old ones and explore the ones that are appropriate to your situation.

by wenbin 7y ago

angarg12 7y ago

This is something I'm battling with right now. As I get older, it's more common to see people younger than me being more successful. When you are starting your career, you only see all the possibilities to fulfill your goals. As you age and don't get quite there, you start to question if you are good enough, and wonder if you'll ever reach your goals, or should just give up. It takes a lot of discipline to keep the right state of mind.

Swizec 7y ago
As someone going through this right now (turning 32 in October, eek) I've come to realize a few things that have helped. "Good enough" is an all encompassing set of criteria. You can be the most brilliant person in the world, but if you are unable or unwilling to take the necessary risks to achieve X, then you re not good enough. If you're too risk taking, that's also not good enough. Everything plays into that. Like a former F1 driver whose name I can't remember said in a podcast once: "Yeah I was good. I was really good. On my best days I was faster than Schumacher, Senna, Prost, and all of them" ... "So why weren't you champion?" ... "Well that's the thing. I was amazing on my good days. The real champions, the ones that make history, they don't have bad days or good days. They're _always_ at their best." The other realization: You play the cards you've got, not the cards you wish you had. Wherever you are right now, whatever you've got in terms of skill, assets, connections, etc ... that's what you've got to work with. Focus on playing the hand you have the best way you can.
mrtksn 7y ago
Just update your goals. Who says that one accomplishment is better than the other? You are not a quitter or a failure only because you did not complete a goal that was arbitrarily created by a younger you or someone else. Surely some material success needs to be accomplished but it is proven that above a certain level the returns of it in term of happiness diminish. You can also forget about goals that younger you imposed on you. I am sure that even younger you imposed even sillier goals that you just outgrew. Maybe you aspired to be the best in Counter-Strike, date the most popular girl/guy in high school or becoming a great PHP developer who works for Yahoo? Who knows but nobody cares anymore. You can outgrow the current ones too. Opportunities and aspirations come and go as we grow, age, get sick or well, poorer or richer. Don't stick to the old ones and explore the ones that are appropriate to your situation.