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This is truly an amazing piece of junk speculation from a supposed psych prof. I find it interesting how the current culture is confusing social norms and pers

This is truly an amazing piece of junk speculation from a supposed psych prof. I find it interesting how the current culture is confusing social norms and personal acceptance when they want to then say "be a special snowflake". Not everyone will like you and that's okay. No one has to like you, except for you. You should like yourself. Generally speaking. Same goes with not liking everyone else. No one will like everyone. Again, nothing wrong with that. That happens when you foster self worth. Social cues are then far easier to manage when you learn that you can pick and choose who you can like and appreciate. It's easier to ignore assholes and enjoy the time with good people. Monitoring social cues and being yourself are two different things. Being yourself means that you don't agree with everyone around you always to appease them. Social cues, or the self monitoring as they like to say is knowing when to say "I don't agree because xyz" or "you're a dumbass". Damn it I feel like I'm taking crazy pills here. Did tech really make society this stupid this fast?

Waterluvian 7y ago
I'm completely on board with what you're saying. Liking yourself is important and sometimes very difficult. I used to obsess so much about not just being liked, but being the most liked. I hurt a lot of friends in my teenage years while trying to become the most popular person in the "group'. At some point in my 20s something clicked and I just stopped caring about how others thought of me. I felt confident in myself and I no-longer needed an audience to find me interesting or funny. One of my favourite traits/quirks is making jokes that are guaranteed to bomb for anyone but myself or maybe someone who isn't present. I'll get confused looks and just say, "don't worry, the cosmos found that one hilarious."
- hackits 7y ago
  Part of finding yourself, and not appealing to people is you take the next step and foster a better understanding of social interactions in groups. You use a bit of cynical implementation to be part of groups and team's. You're not doing to prove anything to you, but other than being singled out and isolated. I understand being self actualize is great, but part of growing is what is more valuable to you isn't what you know but it's what other people know. If your not integrating yourself part of social circles you miss out on leads and adventures you wouldn't of otherwise found if you're sitting by yourself because no one want's to interact with yourself because you haven't developed yourself more than yourself.
mythrwy 7y ago
`Psychology is not a science but rather a belief system.` (paraphrased)- Paul Lutus https://arachnoid.com/psychology_and_neuroscience/ https://arachnoid.com/psychology_and_neuroscience/
- corodra 7y ago
  That's not a fair statement. Psychology is an extremely complex science, similar to weather forecasting. We still don't get forecasting right beyond a couple of days at best. There are so many factors and moving parts in the brain, that its impossible right now to take them all into account. Especially since every psychologist would agree, we still don't know all of the moving parts yet. It's also a very young field in comparison. It's only been a serious scientific endeavor since the Freud and Jung time. Roughly only 100 years.
  - mythrwy 7y ago
    Jung and Freud are like reading Timothy Leary or the Prophet Ezekiel. It's not science in the same way testing for dark matter is. Science must be quantifiable, repeatable, testable, and have controlled experimental conditions, an agreed upon terminology, etc. etc. Simply asking people how they feel then sprinkling some statistics over the responses to try to grasp meaning isn't really the scientific method. That's not to say belief systems aren't important, they are. Nor to say psychology might not provide help to people or insights, I'm sure it can in the hands of a trained practitioner. But as for it being a "science", Lutus' claim is very fair, and I think he is right.
    - corodra 7y ago
      Yea, they laid the groundwork for questions to ask and recorded the lives and data from people, trying to find some correlation. I'm not saying they were perfect. They were the first ones that tried to do it seriously. Freud came up with his parent relations theory of people being jacked in the head because he saw a lot of that going on. But Jung, taking that info found that it's even deeper than that. You also have to realize that not everything is perfectly quantifiable if you don't know how to quantify yet. Under your assumption, we should just give up entirely on trying to understand how and why people think the way they do. The right questions still aren't figured out yet. Hell, don't forget there were problems with predicting orbits with newtonian physics. It wasn't until einstein's theory of relativity that fully figured out orbits of local solar system objects. Does that mean that newton should have been thrown out immediately and the field of astro physics should have been trashed? You're living in an imaginary reality that all answers are perfectly figured out in the first try. That's not science. Again, psychology is young and there are a ton of unanswered questions. It's not like "people thinking" is fake. We do it. How and why? It's trying to better understand how the most complex structure that we know of works, the brain. Neuroscience explains the gears and pulleys. But it can't recreate a functioning brain. Both neuroscience and psychology would need to be mastered to do so.
LocalH 7y ago
I don't think tech made society stupid, but it did overall amplify the voice of everyone, smart and stupid. I just think there are more stupid people out there than smart people.

Waterluvian 7y ago

I'm completely on board with what you're saying. Liking yourself is important and sometimes very difficult. I used to obsess so much about not just being liked, but being the most liked. I hurt a lot of friends in my teenage years while trying to become the most popular person in the "group'. At some point in my 20s something clicked and I just stopped caring about how others thought of me. I felt confident in myself and I no-longer needed an audience to find me interesting or funny. One of my favourite traits/quirks is making jokes that are guaranteed to bomb for anyone but myself or maybe someone who isn't present. I'll get confused looks and just say, "don't worry, the cosmos found that one hilarious."

hackits 7y ago
Part of finding yourself, and not appealing to people is you take the next step and foster a better understanding of social interactions in groups. You use a bit of cynical implementation to be part of groups and team's. You're not doing to prove anything to you, but other than being singled out and isolated. I understand being self actualize is great, but part of growing is what is more valuable to you isn't what you know but it's what other people know. If your not integrating yourself part of social circles you miss out on leads and adventures you wouldn't of otherwise found if you're sitting by yourself because no one want's to interact with yourself because you haven't developed yourself more than yourself.

mythrwy 7y ago

`Psychology is not a science but rather a belief system.` (paraphrased)- Paul Lutus https://arachnoid.com/psychology_and_neuroscience/ https://arachnoid.com/psychology_and_neuroscience/

corodra 7y ago
That's not a fair statement. Psychology is an extremely complex science, similar to weather forecasting. We still don't get forecasting right beyond a couple of days at best. There are so many factors and moving parts in the brain, that its impossible right now to take them all into account. Especially since every psychologist would agree, we still don't know all of the moving parts yet. It's also a very young field in comparison. It's only been a serious scientific endeavor since the Freud and Jung time. Roughly only 100 years.
- mythrwy 7y ago
  Jung and Freud are like reading Timothy Leary or the Prophet Ezekiel. It's not science in the same way testing for dark matter is. Science must be quantifiable, repeatable, testable, and have controlled experimental conditions, an agreed upon terminology, etc. etc. Simply asking people how they feel then sprinkling some statistics over the responses to try to grasp meaning isn't really the scientific method. That's not to say belief systems aren't important, they are. Nor to say psychology might not provide help to people or insights, I'm sure it can in the hands of a trained practitioner. But as for it being a "science", Lutus' claim is very fair, and I think he is right.
  - corodra 7y ago
    Yea, they laid the groundwork for questions to ask and recorded the lives and data from people, trying to find some correlation. I'm not saying they were perfect. They were the first ones that tried to do it seriously. Freud came up with his parent relations theory of people being jacked in the head because he saw a lot of that going on. But Jung, taking that info found that it's even deeper than that. You also have to realize that not everything is perfectly quantifiable if you don't know how to quantify yet. Under your assumption, we should just give up entirely on trying to understand how and why people think the way they do. The right questions still aren't figured out yet. Hell, don't forget there were problems with predicting orbits with newtonian physics. It wasn't until einstein's theory of relativity that fully figured out orbits of local solar system objects. Does that mean that newton should have been thrown out immediately and the field of astro physics should have been trashed? You're living in an imaginary reality that all answers are perfectly figured out in the first try. That's not science. Again, psychology is young and there are a ton of unanswered questions. It's not like "people thinking" is fake. We do it. How and why? It's trying to better understand how the most complex structure that we know of works, the brain. Neuroscience explains the gears and pulleys. But it can't recreate a functioning brain. Both neuroscience and psychology would need to be mastered to do so.

LocalH 7y ago

I don't think tech made society stupid, but it did overall amplify the voice of everyone, smart and stupid. I just think there are more stupid people out there than smart people.