"If you don't trust someone enough, don't get married. Period. End of story." This is bad advice. It's similar to saying: if you need to have a contract with

"If you don't trust someone enough, don't get married. Period. End of story." This is bad advice. It's similar to saying: if you need to have a contract with your business partners, why get into business together in the first place? It's not even about trust with me. I just don't want my future spouse getting half of everything I've worked for..before I met them. Simple as that. A buddy of mine had no pre-nup. He worked for 25 years for the US postal service. After 10 years of marriage, he caught his wife cheating on him (and she wanted a divorce). The result? She gets half of his retirement and the house. A better pre-nup is to give your spouse a time at which they will get a portion of your stuff. So at around 50 years of marriage, they get half. If they reject it, you can say: "so you don't think we will be married that long"? In some states, it's even worse. In New York, you might have to pay not based on how much money you are making, but how much you will potentially earn. If the US courts weren't so biased against men, I wouldn't even consider getting a pre-nup.