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As a nerd, once I found out that lab grown diamonds and other gems are chemically and physically the same as their natural counterparts for a fraction of the pr

As a nerd, once I found out that lab grown diamonds and other gems are chemically and physically the same as their natural counterparts for a fraction of the price, it became VERY difficult for me to buy natural gems. It's hard for me to justify being stupid. Thankfully my fiancee was on the same page.

stagger87 7y ago
Why do you want a diamond (natural or otherwise) on your finger at all?
- skyyler 7y ago
  You don't like shiny things? Strange...
- deleted 7y ago
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- delecti 7y ago
  We're all shaped by the culture we live in.
  - tempguy9999 7y ago
    Whoa there! I'd consider it a mark of wisdom to judge and filter society's expectations rather than absorbing them uncritically. Perhaps not let it shape us unless we consciously allow it to?
    - hangonhn 7y ago
      You and the grandparent aren't necessarily in opposition. It's fair to say that we are all influenced by our culture. We are aware of some things and may not be aware of other things. There are some things I reject and there are others that I just go with. There are even things that I like despite those things are just "how it is". I guess the ring with a gemstone fight was a fight I didn't find necessary to fight over, especially since my fiancee was ok with a lab-grown gem. My fiancee and I sort of just met halfway (actually I paid only a fraction of what I would have been traditionally expected to pay). She wasn't too keen on a huge and expensive ring but I think she would have felt bad if people around her judged her negatively if she didn't have one. We all pick our battles and if I got most of what I wanted, I don't see a need to fight it all the way. It wasn't worth the energy to me and for her to fight it completely. Plus, shiny things are pretty.
- opportune 7y ago
  Unfortunately even if you might feel a certain way, there might be someone else important in your life expecting a Real Diamond Ring whose opinion of you is more important than a few thousands of dollars
  - optimusclimb 7y ago
    If their opinion of you is dependent upon that, that fact just might be worth its weight in gold.
bradstewart 7y ago
Are they? It's been a few years since I seriously looked at diamonds, but I don't remember the "lab grown" stones being significantly (if it all) cheaper than "natural" stones from wholesale dealers. I ended up buying a second-hand ring and having the stone reset in a new ring. It was cheaper than a similar ring from Diamond Foundry.
- hangonhn 7y ago
  Things have changed very dramatically since you looked: https://www.reuters.com/article/us-diamonds-debeers-synthetic-analysis/lab-grown-diamond-prices-slide-as-de-beers-fights-back-idUSKCN1OK0MQ https://www.reuters.com/article/us-diamonds-debeers-syntheti...

stagger87 7y ago

Why do you want a diamond (natural or otherwise) on your finger at all?

skyyler 7y ago
You don't like shiny things? Strange...
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delecti 7y ago
We're all shaped by the culture we live in.
- tempguy9999 7y ago
  Whoa there! I'd consider it a mark of wisdom to judge and filter society's expectations rather than absorbing them uncritically. Perhaps not let it shape us unless we consciously allow it to?
  - hangonhn 7y ago
    You and the grandparent aren't necessarily in opposition. It's fair to say that we are all influenced by our culture. We are aware of some things and may not be aware of other things. There are some things I reject and there are others that I just go with. There are even things that I like despite those things are just "how it is". I guess the ring with a gemstone fight was a fight I didn't find necessary to fight over, especially since my fiancee was ok with a lab-grown gem. My fiancee and I sort of just met halfway (actually I paid only a fraction of what I would have been traditionally expected to pay). She wasn't too keen on a huge and expensive ring but I think she would have felt bad if people around her judged her negatively if she didn't have one. We all pick our battles and if I got most of what I wanted, I don't see a need to fight it all the way. It wasn't worth the energy to me and for her to fight it completely. Plus, shiny things are pretty.
opportune 7y ago
Unfortunately even if you might feel a certain way, there might be someone else important in your life expecting a Real Diamond Ring whose opinion of you is more important than a few thousands of dollars
- optimusclimb 7y ago
  If their opinion of you is dependent upon that, that fact just might be worth its weight in gold.

bradstewart 7y ago

Are they? It's been a few years since I seriously looked at diamonds, but I don't remember the "lab grown" stones being significantly (if it all) cheaper than "natural" stones from wholesale dealers. I ended up buying a second-hand ring and having the stone reset in a new ring. It was cheaper than a similar ring from Diamond Foundry.

hangonhn 7y ago
Things have changed very dramatically since you looked: https://www.reuters.com/article/us-diamonds-debeers-synthetic-analysis/lab-grown-diamond-prices-slide-as-de-beers-fights-back-idUSKCN1OK0MQ https://www.reuters.com/article/us-diamonds-debeers-syntheti...