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There is value in moving away from those statistics and looking at the other part of DoorenMichele’s story, which to me feels like one of compassion. Having pe
by ljm 7y ago
There is value in moving away from those statistics and looking at the other part of DoorenMichele’s story, which to me feels like one of compassion.
Having people around you who can support you while maintaining their own boundaries, without getting themselves involved or colluding with that state of mind you’re in, can be really powerful. It means you’re still being treated like a human being who has needs beyond what they are panicking about in the moment.
Anecdotally, I’ve been through far too many of those kinds of breakdown to count and I was grateful when the friend I was with (who understood the underlying causes) asked if I needed a hug, or said “I love you,” and basically didn’t react to whatever I’d started crying about. I could be another statistical outlier in that sense but there was always a better alternative than engaging the conversation, and making it more real. You can probably guess that was family related.
- DanBC 7y ago> can be really powerful. It can also be invalidating and harmful. I've met far more people for whom it's harmful than I have who were helped by it. It's also causing harm to those other people: a relative who attempts suicide will increase your own risk of suicide. I've spoken to a lot of people who had a relative who died by suicide. Many of them had carer roles for their loved ones. Every single one of them who had this carer role spoke about the huge amount of guilt they now feel, and about their own significant increase in risk of death by suicide.