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I'm quite often rude to others at work and I freely admit it. Reason: ofc I feel I am justified to be so. Just like everybody else I feel I am right. I am not

I'm quite often rude to others at work and I freely admit it. Reason: ofc I feel I am justified to be so. Just like everybody else I feel I am right. I am not rude to everybody. Just people who don't want to carry their weight but want an equal share of the pie. I am rude to Project "Managers" who only assign story points in jira. To product owners who always side with the external client and dump the technical team under a bus for the smallest things. With managers that think we can maintain full speed all year round. With hiring people who only care about getting the head hunting fee. Etc. I am also a 3x productivity wise. Have not been matched in any of my jobs. (Spoiler: never worked at google or anything like that). Always on the edge of burnout. Am I toxic or am I just blunt? Depend on who you ask. Am I to be promoted or fired? The same. One thing more I should note: the same people who make HR complaints behind my back ask me to help them with things that are not in my job description nor are documented work.

mprev 7y ago
You sound exhausting to be around. Your comment about burnout is either a humble brag or an admission that this isn’t even working for you. You get one life. Stop glorying in being a jerk. If you’re as brilliant as you say you are then humility and kindness will make you even more brilliant.
- trabant00 7y ago
  I am not brilliant. That's why I said I never worked at Google or anything like that. But I am hard working and care about the company and people's income besides my own gain. I and I hate when I see somebody who doesn't.
zingermc 7y ago
There's really no excuse for being rude in the workplace. Please get help instead of trying to justify it. If multiple people have made HR complaints "behind your back", you are not competently performing your job. (This directly affects your claimed 3X performance because you drag down your coworkers.)
- trabant00 7y ago
  Then why do those complaints get buried and I get a talk with management approx: "we couldn't find anybody else for that job, try to tolerate them as best as you can for the time being"? My coworkers are the engineers by my side who never complain about me, quite the contrary, they cheer when I put down middle management leeches.
mharroun 7y ago
You got down voted by the hamster wheel engineers here. The reality is there is two types of engineers: - those how give zero shit about there company or product and use their currtent job as a platform the jump the their next job with zero care given about how it trufly effects the person paying them. (aka we NEED kubrentes, SPA, mircoservices, ect). - and engineers who care about being REAL engineers... and providing the best technical solutions to the companies issues and/or problems. One track leads to lead, manager, director, VP, CTO, and the other leads to a dead end bitching how management (aka those who give a fuck about hitting business goals) have more power then the spoiled self centered engineers who are mad the company wont pick the next flavor of the month tech stack to help them into their next job.
- dang 7y ago
  This comment breaks the site guidelines. Would you mind reviewing them and using HN as intended? https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
  - trabant00 7y ago
    Really curious what exactly in his comment is not according to the guidelines.
    - dang 7y ago
      The one about name-calling and the one about commenting on downvotes, for starters.
    - chachachoney 7y ago
      "Please don't comment about the voting on comments. It never does any good, and it makes boring reading." It's hard not to break that rule when one sees something posted on topic and in good faith turning gray.
rongenre 7y ago
Being rude to anyone is unkind, tech is a small world, and people remember. Self-centered reason to cut it out: Sure, you might hand-pick your references for that dream job, but what happens when the hiring manager at said dream job checks out LinkedIn, notices that a college buddy worked with you, asks about you, and that was someone you were rude to.
- trabant00 7y ago
  People I am rude to never get to pick who is hired, promoted, etc. They are just freeloaders who stay out of the light as much as possible.
nexus2045 7y ago
To play devil's advocate a little bit contrary to what other people have commented: you being rude is just an efficient way of filtering out unnecessary interactions and social niceties. If you were polite like everyone else, then you end up wasting more time with watercooler chit-chat and having to maintain all these subtle relationships. If what you're doing works for you, then by all means, as long as you are conveying useful information and not actually insulting other people.

mprev 7y ago

You sound exhausting to be around. Your comment about burnout is either a humble brag or an admission that this isn’t even working for you. You get one life. Stop glorying in being a jerk. If you’re as brilliant as you say you are then humility and kindness will make you even more brilliant.

trabant00 7y ago
I am not brilliant. That's why I said I never worked at Google or anything like that. But I am hard working and care about the company and people's income besides my own gain. I and I hate when I see somebody who doesn't.

zingermc 7y ago

There's really no excuse for being rude in the workplace. Please get help instead of trying to justify it. If multiple people have made HR complaints "behind your back", you are not competently performing your job. (This directly affects your claimed 3X performance because you drag down your coworkers.)

trabant00 7y ago
Then why do those complaints get buried and I get a talk with management approx: "we couldn't find anybody else for that job, try to tolerate them as best as you can for the time being"? My coworkers are the engineers by my side who never complain about me, quite the contrary, they cheer when I put down middle management leeches.

mharroun 7y ago

You got down voted by the hamster wheel engineers here. The reality is there is two types of engineers: - those how give zero shit about there company or product and use their currtent job as a platform the jump the their next job with zero care given about how it trufly effects the person paying them. (aka we NEED kubrentes, SPA, mircoservices, ect). - and engineers who care about being REAL engineers... and providing the best technical solutions to the companies issues and/or problems. One track leads to lead, manager, director, VP, CTO, and the other leads to a dead end bitching how management (aka those who give a fuck about hitting business goals) have more power then the spoiled self centered engineers who are mad the company wont pick the next flavor of the month tech stack to help them into their next job.

dang 7y ago
This comment breaks the site guidelines. Would you mind reviewing them and using HN as intended? https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- trabant00 7y ago
  Really curious what exactly in his comment is not according to the guidelines.
  - dang 7y ago
    The one about name-calling and the one about commenting on downvotes, for starters.
  - chachachoney 7y ago
    "Please don't comment about the voting on comments. It never does any good, and it makes boring reading." It's hard not to break that rule when one sees something posted on topic and in good faith turning gray.

rongenre 7y ago

Being rude to anyone is unkind, tech is a small world, and people remember. Self-centered reason to cut it out: Sure, you might hand-pick your references for that dream job, but what happens when the hiring manager at said dream job checks out LinkedIn, notices that a college buddy worked with you, asks about you, and that was someone you were rude to.

trabant00 7y ago
People I am rude to never get to pick who is hired, promoted, etc. They are just freeloaders who stay out of the light as much as possible.

nexus2045 7y ago

To play devil's advocate a little bit contrary to what other people have commented: you being rude is just an efficient way of filtering out unnecessary interactions and social niceties. If you were polite like everyone else, then you end up wasting more time with watercooler chit-chat and having to maintain all these subtle relationships. If what you're doing works for you, then by all means, as long as you are conveying useful information and not actually insulting other people.