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I'm really conflicted about this. I'm a nerd. I was bullied in school. I was also fairly small and weak and non-sporty, so I was an easy target. I also liked
by tomp 7y ago
I'm really conflicted about this.
I'm a nerd. I was bullied in school.
I was also fairly small and weak and non-sporty, so I was an easy target.
I also liked to talk and especially talk back to the bullies. Who knows, I might have even "psychologically" bullied other people using my wit and intelligence (several of my classmates complained to the teacher once that I would "insult" them which came as a total shock to me... was probably true but I wasn't doing it maliciously and wasn't consciously aware the impact it had on others).
It's really hard to generalize from 1 example.
- 01100011 7y agoIt seems to be fairly common for the abused to turn into the abusers at some point. Once you've internalized the status of a victim, abusing your power over others can seem like justified self-defense or righteous revenge. I remember a lot of 'us'(the uncool kids, 'betas'(haha), nerds, dorks, dweebs, etc) being somewhat conflicted over the Columbine killings, because, while the perpetrators were absolute evil assholes, we understood why someone might feel justified in lashing out at the 'cool kids'(is that more acceptable than 'alpha'?). There are definitely nerd bullies. Hell, my mom and uncle were exactly that in high school. They even used to taunt and make fun of my dad. Unfortunately for my mom, being a smart, sarcastic, cross-eyed nerd girl meant you had to sleep with the dorks, and behold, my family was born.