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How do you tell difference between being used and being kind/humble ? Any references ti improve this

artsyca 7y ago
'humbly' would come from nonverbal cues, and boy oh boy you're not ready to hear the truth but sometimes it's appropriate to dress up at work
- pts_ 7y ago
  What does dressing up achieve? I mean I probably already know it but your opinion is welcome.
  - artsyca 7y ago
    There's no rational explanation but it's the right thing to do Computing professionals trace their roots to primarily home computing enthusiasts, academics and video game nerds all of whom seem to prefer casual dress in their professional pursuits -- Look at the people working on UNIVAC https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_software#/media/File:Grace_Hopper_and_UNIVAC.jpg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_software#/media/Fil... Do we all have so little in common with them we have to absolutely shun professional dress every day of the danged week? Nowadays a bunch of half baked adolescents in hoodies would be moving fast and breaking tubes all over the linoleum, is it a wonder there's no diversity left when all one is allowed to wear is Jeans and printed T's in order to 'fit in'? T-shirts have no place in the professional world, they're the opposite of professional The way I see it, there's a confirmation bias in place here which states 'software developers are a casual lot, to be become one I gotta be casual' Of all people software developers should be aware of the central limit theorem as applies to these sorts of heuristics and end the games already, before we're walking around in togas and flip-flops looking look ancient romans at the agora
    - pts_ 7y ago
      To me dressing up is suits as compared to business casual. I hate suits.
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      - artsyca 7y ago
        Anyway, I view dressing up more as to the `impeccableness` of the outfit and various outfits can only achieve a certain level before they plateau --
  - artsyca 7y ago
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Babbage https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Babbage Here's Charles Babbage -- I've worn a bowtie to the office on many occasions, are you telling me you don't harken back to this old fucker even once in your career? Go ahead and downvote me
  - artsyca 7y ago
    Here, do you think there are no spillover effects from these sorts of phenomena? https://petapixel.com/2019/07/22/photographers-instagrammers-stop-being-so-dmn-selfish-and-disrespectful/ https://petapixel.com/2019/07/22/photographers-instagrammers... It's about dignity, respect and decorum straight up and you're talking to a person who grew up on gangster rap and Nintendo games
davismwfl 7y ago
Being humble in this reference means you put the person's/teams interest ahead of your own. The opposite for a manager is to dictate actions and take no responsibility for the outcome. A humble leader will explain what the mission is, how we can accomplish it and address each person's role with their own being the support role to make sure everyone else succeeds. Of course good leaders are doing a lot of work to make sure things succeed, but the team sees those as support to help them get to the goal. As for not being a doormat, this is the critical part, and it means you set boundaries and do not allow anyone to take advantage of you.

'humbly' would come from nonverbal cues, and boy oh boy you're not ready to hear the truth but sometimes it's appropriate to dress up at work

pts_ 7y ago
What does dressing up achieve? I mean I probably already know it but your opinion is welcome.
- artsyca 7y ago
  There's no rational explanation but it's the right thing to do Computing professionals trace their roots to primarily home computing enthusiasts, academics and video game nerds all of whom seem to prefer casual dress in their professional pursuits -- Look at the people working on UNIVAC https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_software#/media/File:Grace_Hopper_and_UNIVAC.jpg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_software#/media/Fil... Do we all have so little in common with them we have to absolutely shun professional dress every day of the danged week? Nowadays a bunch of half baked adolescents in hoodies would be moving fast and breaking tubes all over the linoleum, is it a wonder there's no diversity left when all one is allowed to wear is Jeans and printed T's in order to 'fit in'? T-shirts have no place in the professional world, they're the opposite of professional The way I see it, there's a confirmation bias in place here which states 'software developers are a casual lot, to be become one I gotta be casual' Of all people software developers should be aware of the central limit theorem as applies to these sorts of heuristics and end the games already, before we're walking around in togas and flip-flops looking look ancient romans at the agora
  - pts_ 7y ago
    To me dressing up is suits as compared to business casual. I hate suits.
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    - artsyca 7y ago
      Anyway, I view dressing up more as to the `impeccableness` of the outfit and various outfits can only achieve a certain level before they plateau --
- artsyca 7y ago
  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Babbage https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Babbage Here's Charles Babbage -- I've worn a bowtie to the office on many occasions, are you telling me you don't harken back to this old fucker even once in your career? Go ahead and downvote me
- artsyca 7y ago
  Here, do you think there are no spillover effects from these sorts of phenomena? https://petapixel.com/2019/07/22/photographers-instagrammers-stop-being-so-dmn-selfish-and-disrespectful/ https://petapixel.com/2019/07/22/photographers-instagrammers... It's about dignity, respect and decorum straight up and you're talking to a person who grew up on gangster rap and Nintendo games

davismwfl 7y ago

Being humble in this reference means you put the person's/teams interest ahead of your own. The opposite for a manager is to dictate actions and take no responsibility for the outcome. A humble leader will explain what the mission is, how we can accomplish it and address each person's role with their own being the support role to make sure everyone else succeeds. Of course good leaders are doing a lot of work to make sure things succeed, but the team sees those as support to help them get to the goal. As for not being a doormat, this is the critical part, and it means you set boundaries and do not allow anyone to take advantage of you.