I think you need to realize that life is not a competition in any way, life is not about being best. Life is not like a RPG where you gain experience(points) i

I think you need to realize that life is not a competition in any way, life is not about being best. Life is not like a RPG where you gain experience(points) in skills to increase your overall level. It doesn't matter how much you improve your external life, it's how you think that really matters. A poor person can be much happier than a rich and externally successful person, it's how the person is thinking about the beauty of life that really counts. "Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within." - Helen Keller "The person who lives life fully, glowing with life's energy, is the person who lives a successful life." - Daisaku Ikeda The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. - Unknown No man is happy who does not think himself so. - Publilius Syrus Look inward and find the peace within. As you do so, the outer world will reflect the peace you feel - Unknown You might be seeking external validation from other people. I've been there myself, I've improved greatly on certain things and when finally been awesome at it realized that it didn't really matter and that there were more important and way more simpler things I should have focused on to improve my life instead. Improving your mind can be really hard even though it's damn simple in theory. The best way to be happy is to be happy. How do you gain happiness? By being happy. You'll have to find a way to realize that you're happy in order to be happy. You can't say "I'm happy" without truly believing it with all your heart, it won't work. You have to KNOW that you're happy in order to be happy. Granted, archiving external goals (being successful with women, socializing or work/business for example) is a great way to to convince yourself that you have everything you need in order to become happy - and happiness follows. However, you must realize that happiness can not be gained be archiving goal after goal, it must come from within.