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As a guy who's bulking, I worry about this too. I've been skinny my whole life and true nerds have always recognized me as one of their own. Will that change wi
by asdfman123 7y ago
As a guy who's bulking, I worry about this too. I've been skinny my whole life and true nerds have always recognized me as one of their own. Will that change with a lot of weight training?
It feels really silly to type that but I feel the ability to seamlessly fit into that culture is a big advantage.
Like, my fiancee is an attractive latina woman and she is the biggest geek I know, but she feels like she has to "prove herself" to other geeks. I hardly know anything about that culture but they instantly see me as one of them.
- SantalBlush 7y agoGatekeepers are going to be gatekeepers. Some folks rely on the nerd persona to look like the smartest person in the room; they probably picked that identity up at an early age. When they see an intelligent person who doesn't fit the stereotype, it can make them uncomfortable. But those people are rare. For everyone else, it doesn't matter.
- siphon22 7y agoUncomfortable is an understatement. Being smart/geeky is their identity, the "self" that they see within, and it is something that separated them from the jocks. Seeing someone who looks like a jock but is smart/geeky must be like a punch in the face. The thing that made them who they are, the thing that they were made fun of and bullied so much for, is now so casually adopted by the people who did the bullying. It is similar to the feeling when male gamers see female gamers who portray themselves as geeky gamers or whatever after for years making fun of those geeky virgins and their video games.