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She wasn't a developer of any description and as a matter of fact doesn't even work in tech. She knew of Ruby on Rails because as someone she was dating, she wa

She wasn't a developer of any description and as a matter of fact doesn't even work in tech. She knew of Ruby on Rails because as someone she was dating, she wanted to know what made me tick.

3pt14159 16y ago
That is even worse. She didn't even know rails and she was the life of the party. It's great to have SOs that try to dig what you are into (mine does, and after a while started writing up HTML and CSS for side cash; starting to get into JavaScript too), but honestly dude writing about using hot girls that barely know what rails is to get contacts at tech events certainly doesn't make us look like upstanding gentlemen. It makes it look like we look towards girls as if they are objects, rather than interesting people. The whole theme of putting yourself on a level playing ground with super rich guys because they just can't buy a smart hot girl is offsetting too. But whatever, my original comments downvoted anyways, so I'm probably wrong and just being too touchy.
- sjtgraham 16y ago
  You make a lot of assumptions. Who is to say this was per se a tech event? It actually wasn't, it was the birthday celebrations of a major record company. The people whom I spoke with were from a large advertising agency that use Rails developers internally. I don't see any reason to see why she shouldn't be the life and soul of a party, she is a very beautiful and very smart woman, an intoxicating combination! I seem to have touched a nerve with you re this post. I apologise, I did not mean to cause any offence. S
  - brandnewlow 16y ago
    Don't let the haters win! All you were doing is pointing out some facts: 1. Woman are crazy discerning about the men they hang around. 2. Smart men recognize this. 3. Therefore, if you see a high-value woman identifying a man as someone she thinks is worth her time, and you know she is crazy discerning about who she hangs out with, it's a safe bet that person is worth your time.
    - haploid 16y ago
      This is very dubious. Women are only more "discerning" about men insofar as mate preferences go. If I were at a networking event or party, and I was seeking out men who offered good reproductive fitness potential, then examining the "hotness" of their companionship would be a good way to go. However, I don't form business relationships based on reproductive fitness. Most people interested in building a successful enterprise don't, either. I will allow exceptions for sperm banks and male escort services, though.
  - 3pt14159 16y ago
    Yeah, I shouldn't have worded my previous two comments as I did, they were too inflammatory so I apologize for that. I had just found out a day or two ago that a family member was severely discriminated against at work (it's all good though, she resolved it herself before telling us. When you work in tech you can often "prove" yourself right, which she did), so you're right about the touching a nerve thing. Anyways, cheers! I know you meant no offense.

She wasn't a developer of any description and as a matter of fact doesn't even work in tech. She knew of Ruby on Rails because as someone she was dating, she wanted to know what made me tick.

3pt14159 16y ago

That is even worse. She didn't even know rails and she was the life of the party. It's great to have SOs that try to dig what you are into (mine does, and after a while started writing up HTML and CSS for side cash; starting to get into JavaScript too), but honestly dude writing about using hot girls that barely know what rails is to get contacts at tech events certainly doesn't make us look like upstanding gentlemen. It makes it look like we look towards girls as if they are objects, rather than interesting people. The whole theme of putting yourself on a level playing ground with super rich guys because they just can't buy a smart hot girl is offsetting too. But whatever, my original comments downvoted anyways, so I'm probably wrong and just being too touchy.

sjtgraham 16y ago
You make a lot of assumptions. Who is to say this was per se a tech event? It actually wasn't, it was the birthday celebrations of a major record company. The people whom I spoke with were from a large advertising agency that use Rails developers internally. I don't see any reason to see why she shouldn't be the life and soul of a party, she is a very beautiful and very smart woman, an intoxicating combination! I seem to have touched a nerve with you re this post. I apologise, I did not mean to cause any offence. S
- brandnewlow 16y ago
  Don't let the haters win! All you were doing is pointing out some facts: 1. Woman are crazy discerning about the men they hang around. 2. Smart men recognize this. 3. Therefore, if you see a high-value woman identifying a man as someone she thinks is worth her time, and you know she is crazy discerning about who she hangs out with, it's a safe bet that person is worth your time.
  - haploid 16y ago
    This is very dubious. Women are only more "discerning" about men insofar as mate preferences go. If I were at a networking event or party, and I was seeking out men who offered good reproductive fitness potential, then examining the "hotness" of their companionship would be a good way to go. However, I don't form business relationships based on reproductive fitness. Most people interested in building a successful enterprise don't, either. I will allow exceptions for sperm banks and male escort services, though.
- 3pt14159 16y ago
  Yeah, I shouldn't have worded my previous two comments as I did, they were too inflammatory so I apologize for that. I had just found out a day or two ago that a family member was severely discriminated against at work (it's all good though, she resolved it herself before telling us. When you work in tech you can often "prove" yourself right, which she did), so you're right about the touching a nerve thing. Anyways, cheers! I know you meant no offense.