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Of course porn isn't a real substitute for sexual education or exploring with another real human. But you appear to claim that it's practically useless because
by ppseafield 7y ago
Of course porn isn't a real substitute for sexual education or exploring with another real human. But you appear to claim that it's practically useless because it doesn't provide everything. That's a false dichotomy: porn can be helpful in some ways, as the GP mentioned.
> Porn is to sex education as war movies are to combat training.
Right, but the options aren't only "war movie" or "real combat training". For some folks the options are porn or a vacuum of information. You can find plenty of regular, non-porn-actor folks having regular sex online. Are you saying this can't be valuable, especially when someone knows next to nothing about sex?
To use your metaphor: as a young and untrained person, would you rather be dropped in the middle of a battlefield with no explanation, or would you rather have watched some videos of real combat first?
- xwkd 7y agoThank you for following the Principle of Charity, (maybe better than I did.) Of course you can find good-old-fashioned amateur porn out there. It might even be useful! But, as you said, in a vacuum: It's now your mental model. Bob and Alice uploaded a porn video where Alice is on top, and now Chuck just knows that's how sex works. It wouldn't be so bad if Chuck went through the next few years of life thinking that. One day, he'll meet a girl and learn that sometimes the man is on top. But: You know what's out there on the front page of the most popular porn sites. Pornhub. Xhamster. Not exactly wholesome amateur love making.
- ppseafield 7y agoYou're right that solely having porn as your sexual guide can lead to some serious disappointment and confusion. I don't think anyone here was suggesting that, or that ALL porn can be informative. But this comment only shows one case where someone gets an only partially informed idea and takes it the wrong way (and only watches one video?). It doesn't address any of the other cases where it is helpful. Also: many of us enjoy more than "wholesome" love making, and porn can be a way of discovering things you never would have realized you enjoyed.
- xwkd 7y agoWell, it was definitely a hypothetical. Ultimately, this is a judgment call. I appreciate this discussion though! Thank you. I am interested though to hear what marines would say about the recruits that come in having played video games or watched movies with gunplay. Is it a good thing? Does it leave them with messed up ideas or expectations?