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Ask HN: I Need a Community

6 points by sturza 7y ago

Context: I'm exasperated. I cannot have a clear and articulate conversation with mostly nobody. Where can i find a group of people that use mental models, see patterns, think before they talk, talk specifics, make calculated assumptions, seek the truth, are not driven by ego and are willing to learn new things at the end of a conversation? I'm sure i'm not the only one.

sturza 7y ago
I'm not trying to offend anyone. It's not about IQ, or intelligence in general. I'm just tired of having useless conversation for the sake of giving useless opinions and not caring about the other person's answer.
ddelt 7y ago
I'd love to find this community too. Apart from technical forums like this, one thing 'Id add that I'm seeking, personally, is all of what you said + a willingness to enjoy life and not obsess over work. A community where people find enjoyment in talking with others as opposed to just bragging about what they did when they weren't at work would be a plus.
a-saleh 7y ago
Slowly. And it is hard. To be honest I only got these conversations 1 to 1, with reasonably close friends (i.e. we know each other for several years, meet regularly, e.t.c) To get there, make friends. Work on those relationships, indulge others despite the fact that they might not think before they talk, have big egos, and don't really want to be challenged ... you can survive i.e. one boring/weitd conversation over lunch right? :) Maybe after few rounds of conversation you realized you clicked with the other person and then you start going for coffe breaks, discussing geopolitics or something. Maybe others join you ... ... in general it is improbable that you will be just handed a group of people that just fits, and even if you are so lucky, people and group dynamics change.
mersing 7y ago
Where do you live?
- sturza 7y ago
  berlin
autisticmind 7y ago
Hey there, lets try a talk. Im seeking the truth also. Everywhere and in everything. What is your truth? Just saw youre from germany. We can talk german then. Would be much easier for me, than writing in english^^.
- sturza 7y ago
  sure, drop me an email
jelliclesfarm 7y ago
What is the subject?
dt3ft 7y ago
Same here.

6 points by sturza 7y ago

sturza 7y ago

I'm not trying to offend anyone. It's not about IQ, or intelligence in general. I'm just tired of having useless conversation for the sake of giving useless opinions and not caring about the other person's answer.

ddelt 7y ago

I'd love to find this community too. Apart from technical forums like this, one thing 'Id add that I'm seeking, personally, is all of what you said + a willingness to enjoy life and not obsess over work. A community where people find enjoyment in talking with others as opposed to just bragging about what they did when they weren't at work would be a plus.

a-saleh 7y ago

Slowly. And it is hard. To be honest I only got these conversations 1 to 1, with reasonably close friends (i.e. we know each other for several years, meet regularly, e.t.c) To get there, make friends. Work on those relationships, indulge others despite the fact that they might not think before they talk, have big egos, and don't really want to be challenged ... you can survive i.e. one boring/weitd conversation over lunch right? :) Maybe after few rounds of conversation you realized you clicked with the other person and then you start going for coffe breaks, discussing geopolitics or something. Maybe others join you ... ... in general it is improbable that you will be just handed a group of people that just fits, and even if you are so lucky, people and group dynamics change.

mersing 7y ago

Where do you live?

sturza 7y ago
berlin

autisticmind 7y ago

Hey there, lets try a talk. Im seeking the truth also. Everywhere and in everything. What is your truth? Just saw youre from germany. We can talk german then. Would be much easier for me, than writing in english^^.

sturza 7y ago
sure, drop me an email

jelliclesfarm 7y ago

What is the subject?

dt3ft 7y ago

Same here.