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> On the other hand, it's great at avoiding the "dying alone with your cats" failure mode. For a woman? You really think so? My impression has been that unstab
by romaaeterna 7y ago
> On the other hand, it's great at avoiding the "dying alone with your cats" failure mode.
For a woman? You really think so? My impression has been that unstable relationships tend to make stable pair bonds far less likely in the future (for men too, but not quite as starkly). Further, women have a much easier time forming lifelong bonds in their 20s and early 30s than in their 40s and 50s (men too, but the effect is not as stark).
In fact, I'd even go so far as to say that if someone really wanted to maximize their chances of dying alone, unstable sexual relationships throughout their peak reproductive years is by far the best method.
- thaumasiotes 7y ago> I'd even go so far as to say that if someone really wanted to maximize their chances of dying alone, unstable sexual relationships throughout their peak reproductive years is by far the best method. Not even close. Unstable sexual relationships through the peak reproductive years mean you're likely to end up with children.
- romaaeterna 7y agoThat has not really been the case ever since the advent of modern birth control.
- thaumasiotes 7y agoIt's still the case now. There's a very large subpopulation who aren't really capable of using birth control effectively.
- romaaeterna 7y agoCan you be more detailed about this subpopulation?
- thaumasiotes 7y agoSure thing. From Planned Parenthood: > If you use condoms perfectly every single time you have sex, they’re 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But people aren’t perfect, so in real life condoms are about 85% effective — that means about 15 out of 100 people who use condoms as their only birth control method will get pregnant each year. ( https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom/how-effective-are-condoms https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom... ) This applies to all forms of active birth control, and is the major reason people push for passive forms such as IUDs and long-term implants.
- romaaeterna 7y agoSo by "very large subpopulation who aren't really capable of using birth control effectively", what you meant to say that "people who report using condoms alone for birth control only have an 85% success rate?" Which in turn you are using to prove that "unstable sexual relationships through the peak reproductive years mean you're likely to end up with children"? I think that you may wish to reinvestigate your original point.
- AstralStorm 7y agoIt gets more complicated once you statify by age or income. Birth control is not free, intoxicants and general carefreeness limit how successfully birth control measures are applied.