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I believe I am an optimist. Last several months made me a realist. Toned down my habit of almost compulsorily seeing the good in people. I am less trusting of

by surds 7y ago

I believe I am an optimist. Last several months made me a realist. Toned down my habit of almost compulsorily seeing the good in people. I am less trusting of new people now. Made me more aware of my own characteristics that I had not given much thought to. My patience levels have gone down the drain, compassion out the window and I have more of a GTFO attitude for anything that, in my opinion, is bullshit. Several traits have changed. I don’t like some of the changes that I see in myself - but I suppose that happens when someone slowly shreds your life and emotional and mental well-being over several months. The lowest point in my life was probably over last few months. Most of what I built over last 5-6 years is gone, but that’s okay. I am at peace, with occasional bouts of depression over past events. Perhaps I will be able to learn my lessons and avoid making the same personal mistakes in the future. I am rebuilding. Let’s see how that goes. Hope I see this question next year. :)

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hazz99 7y ago
> Toned down my habit of almost compulsorily seeing the good in people. Do you think this is a good thing? I've personally tried to do the complete opposite, and I think it's thoroughly improved my life and mental wellbeing. I think it's very possible to be introspective and aware of oneself while still seeing the good in everyone. I hope you feel better :) Life has it's ups and downs, and I've found that time fixes most of it - we just have to learn to enjoy the ride (which can be nigh impossible at times, don't get me wrong)
- surds 7y ago
  No, I don’t think it is a good thing. It goes against my base nature/attitude but I noticed that I am not actively doing it. It has just become so. :( I am hoping that this is just a temporary effect of all the damage sustained over last year. As I recover and move on, hope to get back to normal. It is really a positive trait to have - for your own well being as you are not mentally consumed by negative thoughts about others. You are right! It will all get better, and I am going to give as much time as needed to ride this phase out.
pinouchon 7y ago
I'm guessing your employer or your gf walked away with a good chunk of what you had.

by surds 7y ago

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hazz99 7y ago

> Toned down my habit of almost compulsorily seeing the good in people. Do you think this is a good thing? I've personally tried to do the complete opposite, and I think it's thoroughly improved my life and mental wellbeing. I think it's very possible to be introspective and aware of oneself while still seeing the good in everyone. I hope you feel better :) Life has it's ups and downs, and I've found that time fixes most of it - we just have to learn to enjoy the ride (which can be nigh impossible at times, don't get me wrong)

surds 7y ago
No, I don’t think it is a good thing. It goes against my base nature/attitude but I noticed that I am not actively doing it. It has just become so. :( I am hoping that this is just a temporary effect of all the damage sustained over last year. As I recover and move on, hope to get back to normal. It is really a positive trait to have - for your own well being as you are not mentally consumed by negative thoughts about others. You are right! It will all get better, and I am going to give as much time as needed to ride this phase out.

pinouchon 7y ago

I'm guessing your employer or your gf walked away with a good chunk of what you had.