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First, try reframing everything you have to say as a question. People like ones you describe tend to be more responsive to questions, it plays to their ego. So
by SkyMarshal 7y ago
First, try reframing everything you have to say as a question. People like ones you describe tend to be more responsive to questions, it plays to their ego.
So if someone makes a loud assertion you know is wrong, ask a series of leading questions like a trial lawyer would that takes them down the path of realizing it's wrong (or at least takes everyone else listening down that path).
Second, check out the book The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense [1]. It may help.
Third, are you a woman perchance? This is an especially common problem for women. If so, find a company with a better culture. They're out there, and not worth your energy to try and change this one.
[1]:https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/133203.The_Gentle_Art_of_Verbal_Self_Defense https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/133203.The_Gentle_Art_of...
- hinkley 7y agoYes, but I can think of a few people who fit this bill who are incapable of hearing a question as a critique. They will happily answer the question and not change course in the slightest.
- SkyMarshal 7y agoYes, but 1) it usually takes more than one question, rather a series of questions calling attention to the flaw/s, and 2) even if talker doesn't change course it's likely others in the group will see what's going on and realize OP is actually the one that knows stuff, changing the group dynamic.